I feel some type of way about “marrying an intentional man” or “marry who loves you” being used to describe a man who goes above and beyond financially and in gift giving. Not disputing the fact that we should indeed marry who loves you, but-
According to psychology, if you always feel like people don't really like you, it's probably not because they don't. It's
because you subconsciously filter out
the evidence that they do. It's called social hyper-vigilance. Usually, it comes from being bullied, never fully fitting in or
growing up in constant Criticism. Your brain learned to look for rejection before
connection.
Do you know why Think and Grow Rich has inspired so many entrepreneurs?
The strange thing is that it contains almost no practical blueprint for starting a business. It does not teach you how to find customers, build a product, raise capital or manage cash flow.
Yet countless successful business owners credit it as one of the books that changed their lives.
Why?
My theory is that the book changes identity.
It convinces ordinary people that building extraordinary things is within their reach. Once someone genuinely believes that, they begin to take risks they would otherwise avoid and notice opportunities they would previously have ignored.
Belief changes behaviour, and then behaviour changes outcomes.
Now look at this photograph.
Lionel Messi was randomly paired with a five-month-old baby after the child's family won a UNICEF charity raffle during a Barcelona photoshoot.
That baby was Lamine Yamal.
Objectively, the photograph is nothing more than an extraordinary coincidence.
But imagine growing up with that picture. It would be difficult not to feel that your story was somehow different; and that perhaps you were destined for something remarkable.
Whether or not destiny exists is beside the point.
The belief itself can become a powerful force.
There is even an experiment to prove this:
In 1968, researchers Robert Rosenthal and Lenore Jacobson carried out what became known as the Pygmalion Effect.
They administered IQ tests to pupils at an elementary school and then randomly selected around 20 per cent of them. The teachers were told that these children were "intellectual bloomers" who were expected to make exceptional academic progress during the year.
But it was just a trick; the pupils had been chosen entirely at random. There was nothing exceptional about them.
Yet, by the end of the year, many of these pupils started doing better than their classmates.
The researchers argued that the teachers' expectations subtly changed how they treated those children; offering more encouragement, more patience and more opportunities: which helped improve their performance.
Expectations changed behaviour.
Behaviour changed results.
Maybe the same principle explains why Think and Grow Rich has had such a profound impact on so many people.
And maybe it also explains why a random photograph of Messi holding a baby can make the child grow to become a star.
Sometimes a coincidence becomes part of someone's identity, and the stories we believe about ourselves often influence the lives we go on to build.
Harta ya de los saltitos en los penales; hace falta un indígena como Jamie Vardy que tire trallazos con el coraje reprimido de una infancia llena de discriminación y privaciones.
Anti-love propaganda is insane to me
No amount of your knowledge or purpose created anything meaningful in this world, it was presence of love that birthed worlds
مش فاكر المصطلح او الكونسبت بالظبط، بس كان واحدة قالتلي قبل كدا ان دا لما تبقى واقع في حب اللي قدامك فتبدأ تتعامل معاه زي ما القطط بتعامل بعض، تعضه، تبقى عايز تاكله، تزقه، تقرصه، تشمه، تسبانكه، وهكذا، بغض النظر عن تسبانكه دي علشان دي تفضيلاتي الشخصية، بس المهم يعني.
Good career planning to me means nothing critically important to you is wholly reliant on 1 employer. Not your work authorization, not your financial independence, certainly not your identity.
I don’t think personal development is spoken of enough. Especially if you’re in your 20s, you should invest aggressively in yourself. This isn’t an argument against investing early, it’s for smarter capital allocation.
If spending on a cert or degree, moving to a better place for your productivity, buying a better laptop, outsourcing chores (buying back your time!) or attending the right event can increase your earning potential, that may be a better investment than putting it in any fund or stock.
You need to be able to weigh and use your money to build the life that earns you more money. Do I invest, yes, but I also allocate aggressively on my development
Here's a tip for eating or drinking solo, and this works in almost every establishment: When you go somewhere alone they let you order literally ANYTHING off the menu, and all they ask in return is the amount of money listed next to that item.