As a therapist, I want to tell you: “You loved him because love is in you. You had fun because you are fun. You felt happy because you are a happy person. You gave your all because that is who you are. You have a really beautiful way of loving, and you are going to be okay.”
Dating a girl who hasn’t been loved safely
is like adopting a baby dragon.
She’s beautiful.
She’s powerful.
And she will absolutely scorch the earth
if she feels threatened.
“Ignoring women to make them chase” is peak stupidity. Possibly worked 20yrs ago.
Women have been taught they are losers if they chase after a guy who doesn’t want them. And they are disciplined enough to hold that line even if they are very attracted to u.
Two clever people can’t fall in love.
True love needs one 'idiot'.
Not the bad kind of idiot.
Not reckless.
Not foolish.
Just emotionally brave enough to look silly.
Because when two clever people meet, love turns into a chess match.
Who texts first?
Who waits longer?
Who cares less?
Who has the upper hand?
Both are smart.
Both are guarded.
Both are quietly afraid of being the one who loves more.
So they analyze instead of feel.
They calculate instead of confess.
They protect instead of lean in.
Enter the ''idiot'.
The one who double texts.
The one who says,
“I miss you” without checking power dynamics.
The one who loves loudly, apologizes first, and risks looking foolish.
The one who forgets the rulebook and follows the heart.
They don’t ask,
“Is this wise?”
They ask,
“Is this honest?”
And that is where love begins.
Because love isn’t a strategy game.
Real love always starts with someone brave enough to be vulnerable first.
Someone willing to care without guarantees.
Someone who risks being hurt just to be real.
And then the other clever person eventually puts down the armour, smiles,
and becomes a little bit of an idiot too.
Love doesn’t need two geniuses.
It needs two humans
and at least one willing to go first.
Who was the 'idiot' in your relationship ?
#relationships
Having a naturally intimidating aura is so exhausting. people will go to the wildest extremes to humble you or compete with you meanwhile you’re literally just trying to exist.
"you're too picky"
His morals will raise my children. His hands will protect my home. His heart will nurture mine when I'm hurting.
You’re not picky enough