This movie perfectly summarizes what we debate about every day on social media. Until you live this reality, you may never truly understand it. Unfortunately, many women are trapped in this madness and continue to make excuses for it.
What you repeatedly allow may become what you’re expected to endure for the rest of your life. That’s why it’s important to be clear and insistent about the kind of partnership you want.
My husband and I both work corporate 9-to-5 jobs. We have two children, and neither person’s career is more important than the other’s. I completed my MS program as a wife and mother because I refuse to be left behind while everyone else moves forward. We are a team.
In the morning, we wake up and head in different directions. He goes to the kids’ room to get them ready while I head downstairs to clean up and prepare breakfast.
In my absence, he can microwave the food I’ve already cooked, bathe the kids, dress them, and take care of whatever needs to be done. And my “absence” doesn’t always have to mean I’m doing something important. I could be running errands, at the gym, enjoying the spa, or simply taking personal time for myself without worrying that everything at home will fall apart.
The same applies when he’s absent. The house will continue to function 100%.
Nobody is “helping” the other person raise their own children or manage their own home. We are both responsible for the family we created.
That is partnership!
If you keep finding yourself drawn to chaos, toxicity, instability, and emotionally draining relationships, at some point you have to ask yourself why peace feels so unfamiliar. Sometimes, the family you came from taught you how to survive dysfunction so well that you eventually started mistaking it for love. And without realizing it, you keep recreating the same environments that once hurt you simply because pain feels more familiar than peace.
Never live your life trying to please everybody. It’s never worth it. The price is too high for the prize you seek.
There are people who will never like you. There are people who will never see the good in you.
You can walk on water, and some people will say it’s because you can’t swim. Essentially there are people you can never please, and who will never respect you, no matter what you do.
Don’t let it bother you.
Even jollof rice has miserable people that hate it. And you are not jollof.
Be yourself. Live life to honor God.
And never let the applause of people determine the path of your life.
Happy weekend.
I don't hate socializing. I just love being home. Where it's quiet. Safe. Soft. No small talk. No noise. No pretending to be someone I'm not. Just me. Reading. Thinking. Listening to music. Staring at the wall. Watching old movies. Being bored. And feeling life deeply. Some people call it boring. To me, it's where I finally hear myself again.
Until it happens to you, you think you're too careful to make that mistake, too smart to fall into that trap, too mature to lose control, too private to be exposed, too faithful to drift, or too responsible to fall apart. Life has a way of dismantling every identity built on certainty.
My Vision for a Productive and Prosperous Nigeria
Today, being the 1st of July, 2026, I wish to humbly recall that when I decided to contest for the office of President of Nigeria, I pledged to place Nigeria on the path of unity and national transformation. Now, as the Nigeria Democratic Congress (NDC) candidate, I will, in the coming weeks and months, provide insights into the roadmap that I am confident will help curb abuse in government, halt the decline in the quality of life of Nigerians at all levels, and usher in an era of unity, peace, sustained progress, and prosperity.
This vision is anchored on a commitment to unity, inclusion, social justice, equity, and the freedom of every citizen to pursue lawful dreams.
Central to this proposed roadmap are significant reforms in education and healthcare, which are at the core of human capital development.
Robust human capital is indispensable infrastructure for national progress. It serves as the fundamental capital upon which daily life, economic expansion, and the delivery of essential public services depend.
These are foundational areas that we must reform with energy and determination if we are to reap the demographic dividend of our youthful population.
From the outset of my presidency, we will establish a task force dedicated to drastically reducing the menace of out-of-school children. We will place greater emphasis on Technical and Vocational Education and Training (TVET) to support our drive for massive industrialisation, anchored on our agricultural endowments and value addition across value chains organised around industrial parks to be located in development zones across the geopolitical regions of the country.
Funding and improving the equipment of TVET institutions, through partnerships among government, the private sector, and social entrepreneurs such as faith-based educators, will facilitate apprenticeship opportunities in the private sector, similar to the German dual education system.
The situation in which unemployment remains high while Nigerian entrepreneurs establish businesses elsewhere because skilled labour is scarce must be confronted decisively. Doing so is essential for the common good and for facilitating our transition from a consumption-driven economy to a production-driven one.
Character and civic education, emphasising the values that foster trust - an essential ingredient for enterprise and leadership - as well as shared national values, will receive significant attention within the tripartite approach to governance that we propose.
A New Nigeria is POssible. -PO