A way higher percentage of poly people I've met are closeted, compared to gay people. For many people their families would hate them more for polyamory compared to homosexuality.
The greatest 'gift' you can give your partner isn't submission, nor dominance, it's freedom from the invisible shackles of shame that bind nearly everyone, so you can each live your authentic lives exactly the way you've both always wanted to.
"Aftercare" is really everything that happens from the moment one 'scene' ends, until the moment your next scene together begins.
It's not just a few minutes of cuddles, then your responsibility to each other is over; it's the entirety of your relationship outside the bedroom.
50 Reasons why I enjoy being his submissive:
1. It provides me with a purpose in life
2. I feel so calm during submission
3. It helps me to learn about myself
4. I have someone to turn to and confide in
5. He offers a different perspective on things so I become more informed
6. The safety it brings me
7. I enjoy pushing myself and bettering myself
8. He makes me smile
9. I’m more thoughtful and considerate
10. It takes me out of my comfort zone
11. He offers me new knowledge and educates me
12. It’s taught me about heartbreak, loss, grief and pain which are all part of human life
13. It’s taught me about love, sacrifice, acceptance, forgiveness and selflessness
14. I’m not so scared of things which I was scared of
15. It’s boosted my confidence and esteem
16. I’ve become less judgmental and more self aware
17. It’s helped me to be in touch with my soft feminine energy more
18. It opened my eyes into the world of BDSM and what it can offer us both
19. I enjoy making him feel powerful, in control and strong
20. I enjoy helping him to grow and develop also
21. It feeds my constant desire to educate myself
22. I am presented with new opportunities which I wouldn’t have had otherwise
23. I love being cared for and looked after
24. It’s so nice knowing I can trust someone with my life
25. It meets my need to have traits of a homemaker
26. I like how calming and grounding it can be especially when my life is so chaotic at times
27. I’ve had my first real experience of falling in love with someone and knowing what that feels like
28. I’m proud to have his ownership and protection
29. It keeps me in check
30.He keeps me focused and heading in the right direction
31. I’ve learnt to value steaks cooked medium rare
32.I now take pride in completing the smallest of tasks to the highest quality
https://t.co/TcLdgbqza8 university dissertation was dedicated to him
34.I like how I bring out a softer, more patient, more loving and more thoughtful side to him
https://t.co/PPTgGzv5qw’s bettered my communication and emotional intelligence
36.I’ve learnt actions and words always effect others, whether that might be intentionally or unintentionally
37.He is a good mentor and I’ve learned a lot of career advice from him
38.His cock is the best
39.His cum is the best I’ve tasted
40.He is so persistent and determined.
41. It’s made me more creative
https://t.co/NqzlpSZxDi’s been a great strategy for helping reduce anxiety
43.I’ve loved gaining new understanding and knowledge on technology and gadgets
https://t.co/iHa8dqwywX’s deepened my sexuality
45.I love how it’s a source of comfort and reassurance yet a source of challenge and unknown
46.For whatever reason, my heart is connected to his on a level I do not comprehend
47. It’s helped me to become more authentic than I was previously and to remove the barriers that no longer served me well
48.I love that I’m now developing the same values, morals and ethics he holds
https://t.co/CH0AGxz0F0 have someone understand me better than I know myself at times
50.Because he saw potential in me and I’m on the right path in being able to achieve that and more
@Sub_Sisters_ The bond girls form in service to the same man can be beautiful if they can release that jealousy. It's a kind of romance in itself. As though girls have an innate desire to become one with each other.
Polygyny is natural. You sense that. Jealousy stems from insecurity. If you feel secure enough with him and find joy in his happiness then you will deepen your service that way.
A relationship between a Master and a slave is an expression of who they feel they are and who they choose to be, and their gender has nothing to do with it.
A throuple with one Master works best so neither slave feels solely responsible for all chores and tasks that keep him happy and things running smoothly.
Especially if the slaves have their own goals outside the home, sharing effort knowing they both have help benefits everyone.
Dear 'submissives' -
Instead of 'flexing' how bruised your own butt is on social media, why not show everyone what a great meal you made your Master and how clean you made his house?
Or better yet, his smiling face from how happy you made him?
In my mind a 'slave' is someone who commits to serve their Master any way they can to the best of their ability, in return for security, order, stability, predictability; someone skilled at life who solves problems, makes life plans, and helps guide them to them grow and thrive.
The issue, of course, isn't that there aren't enough submissives to go around...
...the issue is that the already existing submissives have been made to feel ashamed or afraid to admit it, by those who have made them feel like they have to hide who they really are.
@caralotus There has been effort to change women's right and ability to choose their own position.
And in my experience, for some women that means they choose to take care of a home, and serve a Master.
It's not something I have to force, nor would I want to.
Some choose it, some don't.
A Master is supposed to be a guide and a caretaker.
Someone you can count on to have your back, support your dreams, encourage your words, make you feel strong when the world tries to kick your butt.
And someone who makes you feel small and safe when you just need to hide away.
Women accuse me of being a “slave” to my husband. I would far rather be a “slave” to a man who loves, protects, provides for me, and has committed his life to me than be a “slave” to a boss who does none of these things.