Don’t compare with someone else’s life.
It doesn’t have to be perfect.
It just has to be “what you really want?”.
There’s no right or wrong way to do it.
Last month,
I was rushed to the hospital.
Typhoid and malaria.
I spent 14 days admitted as a patient.
Funny enough, I even made friends during that time.
On my first check-up, the doctor
looked at me and said:
"You need to give your body some rest."
I laughed and replied,
"No lie, Doc.
I was actually thinking about a
client project I still haven't finished."
That was my response.
But the truth?
My body was exhausted.
I'd been working for so long that resting had started to feel uncomfortable.
Ironically, those weeks in the hospital
felt like a holiday.
Then on the 7th day, around noon, the doctor asked me a question.
Doctor: "Why do you work?"
Me: "I want to make more money."
Doctor: "Then what?"
I paused.
She continued:
"What's the point of making money
if you don't have time to rest?"
That question stayed with me.
Right there in that hospital bed,
I made a decision.
Turn what I know into something
that helps people.
And build assets I don't have to
rebuild every single time.
With my marketing background,
it made sense.
After I got discharged, my family
picked me up and drove me home.
The next day…
I spent hours scrolling through
Reddit and X.
Claude played a big role here.
I was searching for one thing:
A real problem I could solve.
And then I saw a gap.
Researched it again.
And realized it was bigger than I thought.
Every day, creators are being pushed
to create "simple" info products.
KDP books, AI-assisted ebooks, beautifully designed covers…
They pour in time and effort.
And still make zero sales.
Why?
They never validated a problem people are willing to pay for.
They created "comprehensive" guides with too much information.
They overdelivered, thinking more info = more value.
Worst of all, the AI-assisted ebooks never changed the reader's behavior.
When nothing changes,
nobody comes back.
No repeat buyers.
No trust.
No growth.
Have you gone through this aswell?
Poured everything into a product
and at the end of the day,
Nothing to show for it?
I had been a dullard from childhood.
I hated myself.
I felt insecure around people.
I had suicidal thoughts again and again.
I couldn’t foresee the next three minutes of my life.
But in 2018,
I found something I could die for.
I found Jesus Christ.
I found that I love design and writing.
So I worked one year without a salary
to prove to myself that I could also
be good at something.
I became the leading strategist
in one of the biggest digital agencies in my country.
The Holy Spirit is by far the best teacher on earth.
He taught me that I don’t have to hear
a strange loud voice before
I could be led.
So much has happened after that, you know.
Grateful.
@DearS_o_n Being invisible helps you
not be so attached to the outcome
but actually gives you room
to explore the boring stuff
that brings the outcome to live.
@DearS_o_n Isolation for a man is a no-no.
Isolation makes poverty your best friend.
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.
Open up and talk.
You can’t fix your life alone.
Have you ever read about the
Proverbs 31 woman?
Those types of women come to you
at your (best.)
Best does not equate to having money or not.
It’s that you are responsible.
They are attracted when you are a leader
of yourself first and a leader to others.
When you focus on yourself,
everything else follows.
People who are trusted and tested
People you genuinely know have your back.
Venting your problems to them,
when they listen, at times feels like
you’ve offloaded a heavy load.
It’s good therapy.
You just need to know the right *Who*.
Because no one is perfect.
Being a man does not mean
you should lock up
your problems to yourself.
@DearS_o_n The gap from where you are now
to the affirmation you claim
is your next plan.
So you don’t just affirm the same
outcome on your next birthdays.