Joy Stogner

I am a school administrator with Stanly County Schools, a lover of all things sports, especially softball and mother to Cacy and wife to Cary.

[Brad Weinstein @WeinsteinEdu]

Students need coaching around managing emotions, staying on task, and acting appropriately just as much as they need coaching on their academics.

Teaching is teaching, regardless of the skill.

[Greg Berge @GregBerge]

Control the Controllable.

John Wooden used to tell his players something that seems simple, but it’s everything in coaching and life:

“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.”

Wooden never talked about winning.
He talked about preparation, discipline, and attitude.

He knew you can’t control outcomes, only your response to them.

Too many coaches get stuck chasing what they can’t control:

The refs.
The parents.
The talent they don’t have.
The breaks they didn’t get.

But championship coaches do something different; they master what they can control.

Their preparation.
Their consistency.
Their effort.

That’s why Wooden built process-first teams.

He measured success by effort and execution, not the scoreboard.

Because the minute you start blaming, you stop growing.

And the minute you stop growing, your team follows.

So coach your players the way Wooden coached his:

Focus on the habits that build character.
Focus on the process that builds results.
Focus on the controllable, and let the rest go.

Winning is never guaranteed.
But giving your best always is.

[Joy Stogner @jhat2]

@kaylee_kp22 @cardinals_chand Congratulations! I wore #22 for Ray Chandler and the Carolina Cardinals in the late 90s. Some of the best times of my life with the best people. Good luck and wear that 22 proudly. It's a great number for a great team.

[𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐝 𝐉𝐨𝐡𝐧𝐬𝐨𝐧 @DrBradJohnson]

New year. New beginning.

[Daniel Pink @DanielPink]

Want to be a better leader?

Make sure 10% of people hate your guts.

I’m serious. Here’s why:

Bob Sutton at Stanford says we all need a long list of friends but also a short list of enemies.

Because if everyone likes you, you’re probably doing it wrong.

Yes, being agreeable has evolutionary advantages. If the tribe likes you, they protect you.

But leadership isn’t about keeping everyone happy. It’s about making the right calls even when they’re unpopular.

The truth? If you never upset anyone, you’re playing it too safe.

You’re avoiding tough decisions. You’re not pushing boundaries. You’re choosing comfort over impact.

The best leaders? They stand for something. And when you stand for something, not everyone will like it.

And that’s a good thing.

So, if 10% of people hate what you’re doing?

It probably means you’re leading.

Would love to hear what’s a belief you hold that ruffles feathers?

[Jonathan Alsheimer @mr_Alsheimer]

Leadership 💯

[Leon @MindMatterMoney]

Never downplay your accomplishments. A job is a job. A car is a car. A house is a house. Be proud of yourself and what you have achieved no matter what. You have to build brick by brick.

[𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐝 𝐉𝐨𝐡𝐧𝐬𝐨𝐧 @DrBradJohnson]

Recess isn’t a reward. It’s a reset.

Kids aren’t just “burning energy.”
They’re calming their nervous system.
They’re learning how to breathe again.
They’re letting go of the stress they can’t put into words.
For some kids, running is therapy.
Playing is regulation.
Movement is medicine.
Take that away, and don’t be surprised when the behavior gets worse, not better.

[Stanly Co. Schools @StanlySchools]

Today we celebrated the official Ribbon of the completed addition at Endy Elementary School —
A heartfelt thank you to all our local, state, and district leaders, the architect and builder, and our incredible community for making this growth and progress possible.

[Blake Burge @blakeaburge]

The happiest people I know don't have perfect lives. But they have one thing in common: They've mastered the art of moving on. They don't keep score, they don't cling to what if, they don't dwell. There’s a hell of a lot of progress hiding in the skill of not staying stuck.

[Muffet McGraw @MuffetMcGraw]

So sad to hear a senator say that since he won’t run for reelection he can now vote according to what’s best for his constituents. R’s are so worried about keeping their job they forgot how to do their job. Leadership takes courage-you have th freedom to choose you’re just afraid

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

Great leaders think like farmers.

[Blake Burge @blakeaburge]

Highly valuable emotional skill: Knowing when to not take things personally. Most people are dealing with things you’ll never see. Their tone? Their mood? Their distance? 99% chance it's not about you. "Maybe they're just having a bad day" will save you a ton of unneeded stress.

[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

You don’t need to be the smartest person in the room. You need to be the one who shows up. Who stays true to their word. Who can figure it out. Who does the boring things well. Who takes pride in their work. Who is reliable. The old fashioned things never go out of style.

[John C. Maxwell @TheJohnCMaxwell]

Your life expands in proportion to your courage. Fear limits a leader.

[Jonathan Alsheimer @mr_Alsheimer]

RELATIONSHIPS MATTER: How we respond to kids in their successes and failures can impact their self-talk, self-esteem, and motivation.

Every child deserves an advocate ❤️ who will push them while also providing the support to push forward and to get back up when they fall.