Jessica Dorman

pianist, teacher, mezzo/alto, polyglot. addicted to checklists, organization, and thinking through things.

[Pope Francis – ARCHIVE @Pontifex266Arch]

Today, thanks to God there is finally a truce between Israel and Palestine, and some hostages have been freed. Let’s #PrayTogether that they will all be freed as soon as possible, more humanitarian aid will enter Gaza, and dialogue is insisted upon: it is the only path to peace.

[Andrea Junker @Strandjunker]

The road to the Handmaid’s Tale world is lined with smiling people telling you to stop overreacting.

[Jessica Dorman @jlldorman411]

@ask_aubry Agreed, but maybe didn't have to call her mentally ill mother "you sick fuck."

[Jason @anenglishteachr]

An important lesson all teens/young adults should learn is that even with a job you love and are super passionate about

You will not love every second of it and you will have stretches of time where you dont enjoy it

The teen I homeschool has been working full time all summer long at a bike shop

Bikes, specifically the mechanical aspect, are his passion - hes obsessed

Prior to him working full time, I used to tell him that he was going to have days and periods of time where he doesn't feel like working and where he doesn't enjoy the job

He would always tell me no and that since hes super passionate about it hes going to love every second of every day

Id always laugh and tell him to just wait until you start working full time - your opinion will change

Lo and behold...

Yesterday when we were on the phone he started laughing out of nowhere

I asked him whats so funny and he whispered

"You were right"

I immediately knew what he was talking about but I played dumb and asked him what he meant

He eventually spit it out and told me that going to work feels like a chore and hes not enjoying it

He even said hes looking forward to starting school again

I didnt rub it in his face and tell him I told you so (although a small part of me wanted to)

I asked him why he wasnt enjoying working and if working fulltime ruined his passion for him

He said no BUT he could easily see him coming to not enjoy his passion

IF he didn't make time outside of work to revel in why he loves his passion in the first place

I couldnt have asked for a better realization for him

I told him that even though teaching is my passion and I love it

I have days and even weeks where its not amazing

He said it was a much needed realization for him because it gave him clarity and perspective on what "adult" life was like

And what his career choices should be

Working fulltime brings about many important realizations, this being one of them

I think its great to strive to have a job where we love it and are passionate about it

But its also important to show/teach the youth that not everyday is going to be sunshine and rainbows

And thats okay!

We can have bad days or stretches of time and still love our job overall

[AskAubry 🦋 🐆🦝 @ask_aubry]

Or... Here me out... Men cannot leave the house without being blindfolded. Just as logical.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Partnership is not placation.

Sayings like:
"happy wife, happy life"
"the wife is always right"
"just keep the peace"

....are repression.

Eventually there will be resentment and acting out.

Conflict is natural. No one is always right. Partnership is the maturity to face issues head on as two equal adults.

[Jessica Dorman @jlldorman411]

@Komaniecki_R How about the book of Judith?!

[Jessica Dorman @jlldorman411]

Finally finished the deep clean of my house. 😊 #satisfying #projectcompleted

Of course, I can't rest on my laurels because the house insists on getting dirty again, bathrooms especially! 😆

[Jessica Dorman @jlldorman411]

Yes to this whole thread.

[Chris Blattman @cblatts]

Just hired a 21yo for their first job. What basic professional advice do they need? Here's what I tell all my new staff, but perhaps you can add. I'll start small.

1/ Use an online calendar. Have a foolproof system of reminders, so you never forget a deadline or obligation.

[Jessica Dorman @jlldorman411]

And we have hit July. The month where I still have work and a long list of things to do, but I don't want to do a blessed thing other than sit in my hammock and read. #burnout #summer 🫠

[Jonathan Shedler @JonathanShedler]

5/ For most people most of the time, depression is a message. That message is:

We must change something about ourselves

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Extreme jealousy and possessiveness are not displays of love.

They’re displays of insecurity. Extreme emotional responses are not displays of love. They’re displays of dysregulation.

Authentic love is steady, rational, and able to experience discomfort.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

None of us know what we’re doing. We’re all children in adult bodies at times. We’re all making things up as we go along. We’ve all made mistakes and have regrets. We all want the best for the people we love. We’re so much more alike than we are different.

[rebelEducator @rebelEducator]

20 lessons you should be teaching your kid (that school isn't):

1. Failure isn't bad. It's one of your greatest teachers.

2. Asking "why" is your greatest weapon.

3. Just because someone's an "expert" doesn't mean they're right.

[Mohamad Safa @mhdksafa]

“In one of the most notable moments in sports history, Kenyan runner Abel Mutai was just a few feet from the finish line, but became confused with the signage and stopped thinking he had completed the race.

A Spanish athlete, Ivan Fernandez, was right behind him, and after realizing what was happening, he started shouting at the Kenyan for him to continue running; but Mutai didn't understand his Spanish.

Fernandez eventually caught up to him and instead of passing him, he pushed him to victory.

A journalist asked Ivan, "Why did you do that?"
Ivan replied, “My dream is that someday we can have a kind of community life where we push and help each other to win.” The journalist insisted “But why did you let the Kenyan win?" Ivan replied, "I didn't let him win, he was going to win.” The journalist insisted again, “But you could have won!”Ivan looked at him & replied, “But what would be the merit of my victory? What would be the honor of that medal?
What would my Mom think of that?”

Values are transmitted from generation to generation.

What values are we teaching our children?

Let us not teach our kids the wrong ways to WIN.”

Calltoactivism

[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

How We Spend Our Time

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

In dysfunctional families telling the truth is betrayal and keeping secrets is loyalty.