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This is a story about my father, parenting, and my rule for the strongest relationships in life…
When I was 12 years old, I tried out for a baseball all-star team in our area.
I really wanted to make this team. The tryouts were my first adventure beyond the confines of my small town. An opportunity to see how I stacked up against kids from all around the state.
When the results came out, the coaches called my house.
They were taking 16 players for the team...and I was the 17th on the list.
I was devastated.
It was my first real experience with failure. Something I wanted, worked towards, and came up short. I went into my room, sat on my bed, and cried.
A few minutes later, my dad walked in. He sat down on the bed next to me. After a few minutes of silence, he offered a few words:
“I know you’re upset. I understand. It sucks. But here are the three things the coaches said you needed to work on. Let’s go out every day this summer and work on them. Together.”
And we did.
I’d patiently wait for him to get home from work, holding our gloves, a bucket of balls, and a bat. He took me to the local field damn near every single day that summer. I’m sure there were days when he didn’t want to. When he was exhausted from work or travel, but it never showed.
And I came back the next year a completely different player. Years later, when I got a scholarship to play baseball at Stanford, I still thought back to that one summer as the turning point.
But it was more than the practice that was the real turning point.
It was what my dad said in those moments as we sat on my bed, with tears streaming down my face—and how he followed through on it every day that followed.
He had two options when he walked into my room and sat next to me.
Option 1: Tell me the coaches were idiots. I was the best player. They had made a mistake. They didn’t know what they were doing.
Option 2: Acknowledge the pain. Tell the truth about the opportunity in the failure. And be there to support the work to meet that opportunity.
Honestly, in that moment, I probably wanted Option 1. It would have made me feel better. It would have told me that the world was the problem. That an external thing was to blame. That I was great.
Option 2 was the tough pill to swallow. But also the right one.
I believe that the strongest relationships in life stand on two pillars:
The first is high expectations.
The belief that the other person is capable of excellence. That their potential is only limited by their own views. The willingness to tell the truth about that opportunity and the work required to meet it.
The second is high support.
The ability and willingness to provide the love, support, and engagement to help the other person meet those high expectations.
A lot of relationships fall short of this standard. They hit one pillar, but miss the other.
Low expectations and high support will provide comfort, but no growth. High expectations and low support may spark short-term growth, but breed long-term resentment.
Sir Isaac Newton famously said:
“If I have seen further than others, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”
It’s a beautiful line, but I think it leaves out the part that matters most.
The giants had to bend down. They had to choose to provide energy to lift him.
That’s exactly what my dad did the night I didn’t make that all-star team. He didn’t lower his shoulders to the level of my disappointment. He didn’t tell me the high heights didn’t matter.
He told me that I was capable of the climb—and then he gifted me with his attention and energy to help complete it.
I think about this constantly now.
This, to me, is the highest calling in our relationships:
To create an environment of high expectations with those we love and show up to support them to meet (and exceed) those expectations we’ve set.
This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot as a father. I hope it resonated with you.
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The last thing I'll say, it's on us as parents to LEAD BY EXAMPLE.
Bless up.
Help others.
Live generously.
Show our kids what strength is.
It's lifting others up with you.
You can be anything today.... so go BE KIND in real life & online.
God bless.
Have a great day. ❤️🙏
@smithhmackenzie Your posts are always full of wisdom. This post is one of my favorites. Helping my aging family members with their health issues has left them with few choices on how to spend their golden years.
Pretty monumental day, yesterday! Two doods who should be dead, went to the @Saints game. Together! Not dead, yet. Celebrating, and practicing to love the life we have. LOVE.
This never needed to get personal.
It never needed to be about Elon vs Trump.
It always was about the deficit, and whether the Big Beautiful Bill reduces it.
Going forward, our President should focus on giving the people one Big Beautiful Explanation, not retaliation.
This is Bill Perkins.
He's worth 100s of millions, a hedge fund manager, poker player, asymmetric thinker...
And my smartest mentor.
Steal his 7 principles on how the rich think differently:
I made a 4 year old (not my own kid) CRY at church last night......
Here's a controversial parenting move I felt I needed to use.
I walk in (30 kids & 3 volunteers) & (my son) is crying.
I ask what happened & he said this boy ripped up his picture & hit him.
WATCH: Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent Sets the Record Straight on @DOGE
"Elon and I are completely aligned in terms of cutting waste and increasing accountability and transparency for the American people. I believe that this DOGE program ... is one of the most important audits of government we have seen."
"There's a big agenda and I think that there are gigantic cost savings for the American people here. I think it's unfortunate the way the media wants to lampoon what is going on. These are highly trained professionals. This is not some roving band going around doing things. This is methodical and it is going to yield big savings."
CC: @elonmusk
I'm excited to share the latest episode of the #RicherWiserHappier podcast: my conversation with legendary investor Terry Smith. This is one of my all-time favorite episodes. To listen or watch: https://t.co/4ennu819mC
🥑 BOOMING AVOCADO TREES 🥑
@ChefGruel takes a farm tour with Nicole in Southern California, where they discuss everything from Trump’s tariffs on Mexico to how to grow coffee beans in the U.S. Full podcast coming soon!
Calley Means Makes a Plea to @SenBillCassidy to Support RFK Jr & the MAHA Movement
"We are at a fork in the road for American health ... That road goes through Senator Bill Cassidy ... As Bill Cassidy votes, will go the way of MAHA and RFK."
Full Episode w/ @calleymeans: @megynkelly
Well would you look at that
Pocahontas gets the 2nd biggest payouts from Big Pharma in the entire Senate
Now you know why she doesn’t want RFK to sue them
Dems today mentioned the word “measles” 25 times.
They mentioned diabetes, heart disease and obesity ZERO times.
500 Americans per year died of measles - before the invention of a vaccine.
220 million Americans are suffering chronic disease.
Who cares about children’s health?
"I want to Make America Healthier."
Is RFK'S mission.
Remember who opposes this.
Never forget it.
Some of the people in power HATE YOU.
They should be required to wear suit jackets with PFIZER, MODERNA, & their corporate owners on it like NASCAR drivers do.
They do not represent WE THE PEOPLES BEST INTERESTS ever.
*Important side note:
You don't need to wait on any politician to GET HEALTHY yourself.
Go for a walk. Workout. Eat sensibly.
It's all within your power.
“Ultimately the only thing that will save our country and our children, is if we choose to love our kids more than we hate each other.” - @RobertKennedyJr