Ben Affleck lost both of his parents this year. He says he learned “a great lesson” from how his mother navigated the end of her life:
“One of the things you grapple with at my age when parents die is there’s a comfort and awareness in knowing this is how it’s supposed to go. When I go, it will be hard for my children, but none of us want it any other way.
My mom said to me at the end of her life, ‘God, I thought 84 years would seem longer.’ And I thought, ‘I bet, because I thought 54 would seem longer.’
That’s what we get. We get this much time, and it’s a reminder not to put anything off or fix it later. It’s more about how you show up every day with everybody else.”
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Pernah ngga naksir orang literally ngeliat dari visualnya doang?
Ada lho orang yg visual-nya solid 10, tpi pas diajak deep talk rasanya kyk ngobrol sama brosur sedot WC garing dan bikin capek.
Eh sebaliknya ada yang first impression-nya B aja kayak anomali. Tapi pas makin sering interact malah...
Deym, the unspoken rizz is real!
Menurut jurnal (iya gue sok akademis dikit njir), ketertarikan tuh combo dari 3 hal:
• Fisik
• Sosial (vibesnya asik buat hangout)
• Task (nggak jadi beban pas ngelakuin sesuatu bareng)
Hal-hal lowkey kek cara dia respond jokes garing kita, atau seberapa relate kalian berdua tuh ngaruh bgt.
Jadi spark itu nggak tiba-tiba turun dari langit ngerasukin jiwa. Itu murni hasil dari gmn kalian vibing bareng.
Ujung-ujungnya, partner yg beneran attractive tuh nggak melulu yg punya main character energy pas pertama kali nongol.
Kadang justru dia yg makes you feel seen, dan effortless aja gitu diajak ngapain aja.
Tipe yg bikin lo ngebatin:
"I want to be around this person, like, all the time"... tanpa bikin social battery lo bocor merembes.
walking or jogging reduce depression about as much as therapy and have a much larger effect than SSRIs
the largest effect in the entire analysis was from dancing
I hate to break it to you, but if you want to be successful and you aren't from a rich family, you have to sacrifice a lot. You have to sacrifice your health, your mental health, your personal life, and your reputation. For every rich family and every trust fund baby you see, there was someone in that family who sacrificed everything to build that wealth.
It takes a psychopathic and sociopathic level of dedication to make it out of this corrupt system.
#intinyadeh ttg Pasmingbased, Pasmingpuh:
> Bigmo dilarang streaming di ITB sama satpam
> Pasmingpuh (ayah Pasmingbased) ngestitch, blg gak ajak dia sih, klo ajak pasti boleh
> Kay komen "who tf is bro"
> Pasmingbased gak terima dgn komen kay tsb krn dianggep gak sopan
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I gave Claude fable 5.5 one prompt: a video of all human progress, then 30 years into the future.
It came back with a 3-minute animated film and an original score. No footage, no stock music.
Andrej Karpathy makes a good point: as AI does more of the work, more of your job becomes reading what it produces.
His first tip caught my eye. Ask the model to explain things in ASD-STE100.
ASD-STE100 is a controlled English standard built for aircraft maintenance manuals. A mechanic anywhere in the world should read a step once and get it right.
The core rules:
1. Keep sentences short
2. One action per step
3. Say who does what
4. Give each thing one name and stick to it
AI output breaks that last rule all the time. It says "worker," then "agent," then "executor," and you can't tell if it means one component or three.
The full spec is strict. Karpathy asks for "80% of the way," and that works for daily use.
Someone turned it into an open-source skill:
https://t.co/FFqEehqVl2
j'arrive à faire tourner infamous second son sur mon pc en 4k natif avec une build de shadsps4 que j'ai peaufiné à l'aide de claude, j'ai envie de chialer. c'est un rêve qui se réalise.
j'ai fait ça en 24h
One day, your home will be empty, and someone will have to decide what to do with your things. They'll open your drawers. They'll find the watch you treasured so much, the car you spent three years paying off, and the clothes you saved for special occasions because you didn't want to wear them out. And they'll make three piles: what to sell, what to give away, and what to throw away. None of it goes with you. Not a single thing. The only thing that goes with you is that afternoon you stayed talking for hours and didn't even realize where the time went. The look on your mom's face when you showed up to visit her without telling her you were coming. Don't collect things... Collect moments with the people you love
You cannot overestimate the impact of being a good host, who hosts consistently. For several months in 2023, I hosted a dinner, pregame, or party ~weekly. Always at least 6 guests, usually more like 15, frequently more like 30 of them.
Hosting on that cadence was fun but taxing! I only had the stamina to do that for several months while I had a default co-host (my roommate) and we lived in a building with tons of other friends. I’m so glad that I did it, and I’m terribly glad I don’t feel the need to do that anymore.
Before and since then, I have 2-3 people over most weeks for a chill hangout. I throw a proper event (eg 15+ guests, with a partiful) only every 3 months or so. Usually NYE, my birthday, and another couple of random parties in a year. They’re always so much fun. I rarely send out an invite more than 10 days in advance, but they’re always well-attended.
One of the most delightful things in the world is when my old roomie from years ago gets excited about seeing our old neighbors who used to come around all the damn time, bc they’re both at the same big party and haven’t seen each other in ages. The other delightful thing is when I go to somebody else’s party & they’ve invited one of my friends who they met through me — and they’re homies now, and maybe even closer to
each other than they are with me. It fucking rocks.
Tons of my friends now host stuff on the same cadence that I do: a handful of significant events a year. You know what the sum total is of 15 people inviting you to 4 events a year? You have plans every week, at least. When you hear about New Yorkers humble-bragging about how swamped they are with partiful invites, it’s bc tbh we actually have 40+ friends who’ll throw us an invite every so often, bc if you attend these things even 50% of the time and you’re even a little friendly, you meet a new friend-shaped-acquaintance almost every single time. The lists just keep growing. And that doesn’t even account for one-on-one and small group hangs. When we say we’re oversocialized, we really mean it.
Very few of my friends had this kind of social abundance 5 years ago, or even 3 years ago. It all compounded over time bc we participated in creating the social lives we wanted. I implore all of you to start trying. You gotta start somewhere. I didn’t always have 30 actual friends to invite to things — I had maybe 30 people I kinda knew, and some of them were proper friends, and then I invited smaller groups over until more people were proper friends, and it just ballooned from there. It’s not magic or rocket science. Get over yourself and let people you like hang out in your slightly messy living room all the fucking time. You will not regret it!