For me there’s only one contender for Person of the Year.
Gisele Pelicot.
The woman who has recalibrated how we think about rape by refusing to feel shame.
“It’s time we change the way we look at rape”, she said outside the court today.
And…more than anyone I can think of… she’s done that.
“Shame must change sides”, she said, and perhaps – perhaps – that is a little more true today than it’s ever been.
But there’s something else that I want to talk about. Something that’s much more difficult to confront than the inspiration and dignity of Gisele Pelicot.
51 men.
51 men who are not all men… but who are also quite a lot of men. 51 of them in fact.
And if you read about them… their backgrounds… their jobs… their families or lack of family… they’re all quite different.
A firefighter…a nurse… an unemployed alcoholic.
Some were abused as children. Some had comfortable upbringings with kids of their own.
Six had domestic violence convictions. 45 didn’t.
One was 27. Another was 74.
There’s no pattern here. Nothing we can point to. Other than the fact there is no profile of a rapist. Which is perhaps the most frightening thing of all.
The tragic loss of three young girls in Southport sparked violent disorder across the country.
We were commissioned by the Home Secretary to conduct a rapid review of the policing response. Today, we have published part one of our findings.
One thing that's made my blood boil in the Pelicot trial is the part medical misogyny played in allowing the horrors to go on. Gisele went to Drs about gynae issues, memory loss, etc and it was all dismissed as female hysteria or female troubles to just learn to live with.
This headline has now just been changed on the BBC website but this does not negate the fact that many sharing outrage pointing this headline out likely helped create this change, which is why newsrooms need training on sensitively reporting these issues.
I often had to spend whole days arguing with editors trying to change headlines, by which point the damage had been done.
It shouldn’t take a huge emotional outpouring to highlight that ghoulish headlines like the one the BBC reported is wholly irresponsible.
Dead women deserve dignity:
➡️ https://t.co/tUXOUtAI7o
We’ve received a lot of messages in the last 24hrs, sorry I couldn’t reply to everyone but I’m sure you understand why. Thank you for your kindness and support, it means a lot.
Teddy my 7 yr old daughter was at the horrific incident in Southport yesterday.
She went in with her best friend, a friend she was so lucky to have; the smartest, prettiest little angel from the best family you could ever wish to know. It breaks my heart to say her little friend has been taken away from this cruel world. We just pray she is in peace and her family find the strength to get through this.
Her Mum, My Dad an I were one of the first at scene, when only 3 officers present so the media reports of it being armed officers who detained him is not true - it was local, every day police officers. They defied orders and risked their own lives to protect the lives of children from our community.
The things witnessed will live in our memories forever. Those same police officers; who get paid less than a McDonald’s manager, got home, hugged their own kids and got back up this morning to do it all again, are now being attacked on the streets.
No matter what your political views are, they are not the problem. Please, for the sake of the poor victims and their families, STOP THE VIOLENCE.
We will forever be in debt to Leanne, Heidi, Greg, Joel, John and every other hero who helped save so many lives.
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As a child bereaved by fatal domestic abuse, headlines calling a man who killed three women a “nice guy” and “normal person” have felt personally traumatic.
The media called my father a “gentle man” and “nice chap”, which misrepresented the controlling reality that myself and my family experienced for years. It compounded our trauma.
Reporting like this causes so much damage – both to victims’ families, and to public understandings of coercive control. It has to stop. Now.
We need every single newsroom trained in how to report domestic abuse deaths, and to lobby the regulator for stronger rules. The press has the power to prevent further deaths and save women’s lives.
Please support this crowdfunder I’ve started to support @we_level_up’s crucial work to train journalists in their Dignity For Dead Women guidelines.
This takes all of us ➡️ https://t.co/iPJGFUs7Qn
@SimonCalder Do we have any idea when the 100ml limit regulations will be changed. Had bought toiletries to take through at birmingham but can't as waiting on regulatory approval.. is this going to be weeks? Months? Years?.
@katemacrae Think I saw stix this morning at around 5.30 drop off a rodent with aluco behind him . Not sure why she didn't stop and feed them as owlets didn't seem impressed that food was there but they couldn't eat it 🤣