🧵I’ve said before that American evang. churches basically raise girls who are pre-groomed. I’ve attributed that to undue trust in men in the church and excessive suspicion of people outside of it (who could tell girls that what they’re experiencing is not healthy or normal).
A particular trigger for lots of complex trauma survivors is being observed. Being watched-- or even noticed-- was often a precursor to punishment once upon a time.
Secrecy, anonymity, or functional invisibility was often the only "safety" we felt.
A new Zillow study says that renters who make minimum wage have two options to keep rent under 30% of their income: either find 3 roommates (with 2 people per bedroom) or work 4 full-time jobs.
People who can't be honest with themselves about their feelings are ticking time bombs. They'll be radically discontent below the surface and you won't even know it until one day when they act out chaotically in a convulsing attempt to find alignment.
@robkorobkin Im a big fan of this especially because I’ve found so many residential programs and housing that prohibit not just bupe and methadone but all psych meds. SSRIs and mood stabilizers and antipsychotics and everything
the number of leftist men who talk a big game about feminism in public and rote memorize the “correct” rhetoric to spout but are creeps and rapists behind closed doors truly disgusts me. it’s so common
Remember: people-pleasing doesn’t make you “nice.” It just means you’re selfishly trying to avoid all consequences by pretending to be what everyone wants & it makes you untrustworthy. Gotta have the integrity to say things that people won’t like.
@stephpstrong I’m not very familiar with the regulatory landscape for Medicaid policies like that. Maybe it’s something that could be addressed on a state level, at least in states with Medicaid expansion
@stephpstrong In my experience as a case manager, many of these facilities only have this policy to comply with insurance requirements (Medicaid in particular)