nobody is going to look at your good intentions and reward you for them. the results come from what you do when you're tired, bored, and nobody's watching. that's uncomfortable to hear, but it's also the most empowering thing there is.
The older I get, the more certain I am that we knew exactly who we were when we were little. We knew what we loved, what scared us, what made us laugh. Then adults, with good intentions, talked us out of it one "be realistic" at a time.
You can't give someone a perspective they don't yet have the capacity, bandwidth, or experience to understand/hold. Sometimes, it's not that they disagree with you. They simply haven't evolved in that direction enough to see what you see.
Trust the plot, even when the scene makes no sense yet. Some of the most important chapters feel like detours while you're in them. You only see the design once you've lived far enough to look back.