Bídèmí

[Bídèmí @laryoh]

The first thing you learn after experiencing the loss of someone dear to you is that ‘life goes on’

[Chamath Palihapitiya @chamath]

I turn 50 today. This is a message to my kids but I offer it to you in case any of it rings useful.

I was born in Sri Lanka in 1976 in a country that, at the time, was about to enter a decades long civil war. My father was able to get stationed at the Sri Lankan High Commission in Canada for four years in the early 80s - when some of the fighting was most severe - and which from our vantage point in Canada gave us some respite from an otherwise omnipresent conflict.

He came as a diplomat but then my father filed for refugee status after four years when his life was threatened by militants. We stayed in Canada as refugees. My dad never really landed on his feet and we grew up on welfare.

My mom stepped up. She did an incredible thing and put our family on her back and kept marching forward. Sometimes the steps were very small but she always tried to keep moving forward.

I worked at Burger King starting at 14, giving my paycheck to my mom and dad to support our family in the role that I was assigned - earn enough to pay for our bus passes because we couldn’t afford a car.

I was a loser growing up. Some friends, some good memories but mostly forgettable and lonely. I wasn’t very studious but did get my act together in my final year and got into a great university.

I immigrated to the US soon after graduating and found an opportunity. Things clicked and I have been traveling a path to find myself ever since. Only in America is this possible…

I worked hard, followed the rules, paid my taxes and stayed in California out of loyalty for the opportunities it has given me despite its dysfunction.

I found my wife here. Had my kids here. Found my tribe here.

There have been some very hard times as well - deaths, divorce, financial pain, mistakes of omission and mistakes of commission. You can’t dwell on these things - they are weights that will pull you down if you’re not careful. Learn from them. Respect them. BUT MOVE ON.

To think 50 years ago I could have ever gotten a chance to meet the people I’ve met and have had the experiences I’ve had would have been mind boggling to my parents. It’s mind boggling to me now.

We forget often and try to convince others it’s not true but America truly is the best country in the world. Everything and anything is possible here. I can testify. Be grateful to be here.

This is the only place that gives EVERYONE a chance to live a great adventure. The first 50 years have been that for me - an incredible adventure.

Notice there is nothing here about accomplishments or money. Because it doesn’t matter and it won’t matter.

You will be dust in less than 100 years from now and the decision to be remembered won’t be yours so stop sweating it. It’s not in your control.

So what is in your control?

Be kind. Have fun. Work on something meaningful to you. Find your tribe. Try to find perspective. Find an incredible partner. Have a bunch of kids. Live an adventure. Forgive your parents - they were doing the best they could even if that wasn’t what you deserved.

I will do what I can to make my next 50 years a wild ride.

You should too.

I love you and thank you. ❤️

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[Bídèmí @laryoh]

Condemning someone for following the policy you set on their first real exposure outside of a training environment is blehhhh

[Bídèmí @laryoh]

@akintonmide @theDamiDami He’s not just a board member, he is/was the face of UBA and someone that is/was actively part of the culture. It’s weird to preach a 1st name basis culture to a trainee and make that type of comment.

I’ve never worked anywhere that isn’t first name.

[Olawole @Olawoleaa]

@YoungLobzy Atedo was called Atedo. Yinka Sanni was called Yinka, Wole was called Wole, Shola David- Borha was called Shola. Tsim is called Tsim.

People wey even old pass TOE. Scrap the policy if you can’t uphold it. Simple.

[Mads @europemaxxed]

Getting attached to the car ahead that you've followed for 45 minutes and then they suddenly take the exit like we had nothing

[bala ⊹ ࣪ ˖ || adults s2 spoilers!!!!!! @balargoingsolar]

never deleting tiktok

[Lynne @_ayandamay]

If you’re going to charge $10 for Wi-Fi on a flight, why can’t you just bury it into the original ticket price and call the Wi-Fi “free” so I don’t have to get pissed off at 35,000 feet?

[Bídèmí @laryoh]

It will be wild if Congo beats England

[ESQUIRE WEY DEY FIRE 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 @Eneegmanuelllll]

Implication of this is that the woman selling Akara in this area won't be able to feed her children for at least 3 days 💔 💔 💔 💔

[Murray Hill Guy @MurrayHillGuy1]

Millennials, it's time to choose your midife crisis

1. Date a 23 year old
2. Quit drinking and become insufferable about it
3. Double down on drinking
4. Train for a marathon nobody asked about
5. Have a panic baby (with wife you hate)
6. "We're opening the relationship" (she bangs)
7. Get divorced
8. Get diagnosed with adult ADHD/autism
9. Niche side quests like rock climbing, hyrox, gardening, handstands

[Pop Base @PopBase]

Mexico has scored a second goal at the World Cup opener against South Africa.

2-0

[(fan) Trey @UTDTrey]

🎶NO MATTER WHERE YOU GO, REMEMBER THE ROAD THAT WILL LEAD YOU HOME🎶😂

[Bídèmí @laryoh]

😂😂😂😂

[Aviator Anil Chopra @Chopsyturvey]

Shakira’s done it again…after Waka waka..!!

[goma @soigomaa]

I think of these women every day and feel guilty.
If not for geographical luck this could be me. I don't know how to help

[Olori Ajoke 🫅 @Orisunmibairemi]

This TikToker crocheted a Birkin bag and here I am asking myself… what exactly is my own talent? 😭

[Edgar Allen Poe @allenakinkunle]

Geography, timing, luck.

They play a far greater role in people's success than most like to admit.

[P0liticalbaby 🇵🇸🇨🇩 @P0liticalbaby]

The sweltering Lagos summer interrupted my lunch of Jollof rice and bean cake

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

Researchers in Stockholm put a woman's egg in a dish next to sperm from two men: her partner and a stranger. Half the time, the egg pulled in more sperm from the stranger than from the man she'd chosen.

This was a 2020 study from Stockholm University and the University of Manchester, published in Proceedings of the Royal Society B. Until then, nobody had shown a human egg doing this.

The fluid that surrounds an egg in a woman's body releases chemicals that act like a scent trail. Sperm follow the scent. The team put samples in thin glass tubes and counted how many sperm from each man swam in. All the eggs and sperm came from real couples going through IVF treatment.

The pull was uneven. Eggs attracted 18 to 40 percent more sperm from one man over another, and inside the egg's fluid, sperm built up about 10 times more than in a plain comparison liquid. The team ran the experiment over and over, and the same pattern came out every time.

The bigger finding came in who got picked. In half the cases, more sperm got pulled toward a stranger than toward her partner. The same sperm performed differently depending on which woman's fluid it was in.

Sperm tails have a tiny gate on them. When the gate detects a hormone called progesterone (the same hormone tied to a woman's monthly cycle), it opens and the sperm kicks into a higher gear. Each woman's fluid has its own chemical mix, so different men's sperm respond differently. Some sperm get a strong push. Others barely react to the same fluid.

Roughly 1 in 4 UK couples in fertility treatment have no idea why they can't have a baby. Every standard test comes back normal. If the egg and sperm reject each other chemically, no test catches it. The cycle fails. They get no answer, and they have to go through the entire thing again.

In fertilization, the egg gets its own vote. The woman never feels it happen. Half the time in this study, that vote went to a stranger.