We seal envelopes not because the letter contains a conspiracy, but because the contents belong exclusively to the sender and the receiver.
The "nothing to hide" argument is pure corporate/state propaganda. Privacy isn't about hiding a crime; it's about deciding who gets access to your life. It’s a boundary of power, not a shield for guilt.
Overlooked fact: every significant relationship in your life began with one moment of someone being slightly braver than the situation required. One person said the thing. Asked the question. Made the first move. Relationships don't start with mutual courage. They start with one person's excess courage.
Over the past 5-10 yrs, both of our main political parties have standardized their communications strategies around blaming some Enemy or another (Immigrants! Oligarchs! DEI! The Epstein Class!) for voters' evident dissatisfaction with the state of the country.
Don't intend to comment here on the socio-economic validity of those arguments.
Do want to point out that accepting them is disastrous from the point of view of an individual trying to improve his or her own life.
It is true that our lives are shaped to a large extent by structural forces beyond our control.
But the key to achieving anything (a family, professional success, a home, whatever) is to act *as if* we are in control.
Anything else is a recipe for passivity, failure, and unhappiness.
Maybe this is much more obvious than it seems, but it was a big revelation to me today: I don’t know anyone who has tried to get rich and is not.
I know many people who of course want to be but have not *really* tried.
Those who have, in my circles, at 30 - all rich. Crazy.
5 reasons you should go for it:
• Nobody is thinking about your life as much as you are.
• Playing it safe is still a risk.
• You can always change direction. You can’t get back lost time.
• The worst-case scenario is usually survivable.
• The best-case scenario could change your life.
Good example of strategy in life. 90% positioning, 10% explosive execution when the timing is right. Activity without achievement is a false god of the modern world.
You mean to tell me my son can can be at 99th percentile of everything and a couple years ahead in math, spend his days building robots and rock climbing and horseback riding…
AND no one will try to convince him to be a Communist?
You think this will deter me?
What happens when you die:
They divide up your shit.
They summarize your life in 500-1000 words.
People who knew you less say sorry to people who knew you more.
Everyone eats, drives home, and wakes up the next day and goes to work.
Whatever you’re worried about won’t be in those 500 words.
You can dare greatly or not at all, but you’re gonna die either way.
Might as well squeeze every motherfucking drop out.
Pick your head up and look around you. The amount of wealth in this country is stupid. Maybe you’re young and just getting started. Maybe you’re older and never got traction. There’s no better place and time to make it happen then right here, right now. Let’s fucking go
The second you realize people love people who love life, everything changes. Energy is contagious. Enthusiasm is magnetic. Nobody wants to be around the guy sleepwalking through life. You want great people and great things around you? Gotta bring the heat today. Let’s fucking go.
this doesnt get discussed much but yes "stem" advanced degree wages were massively driven down by the 1990 immigration act
results were rapid and predictable. essay from 2006.
The reason having fun eliminates anxiety is you have anxiety because you’re tied to outcomes
You are anxious bc of fears of what happens if you don’t get the outcome you desire
You make things win or loss. But that’s not how life is meant to be played. Life is a game. The fun is playing it.
It’s like when you were a kid - you weren’t anxious. You played to play. That’s how life should be.
Quit my job last month to pursue a start up I own a portion of.
We aren’t making enough revenue to fund salaries. I am the sales and gtm lead. We have a few decent competitors in a relatively new space.
I’m caddying the rest of the KFT season to help make ends meet and have some fun adventures. Moving to a new city in the fall to save money and get back to my roots.
I walked away from the safest job of all time, promo at the end of the year guaranteed. In 5-7 years I would’ve inherited a massive book from my business partner.
He and I had a discussion the week before I quit. He had a child die young and has made 7 figures for around a decade… he told me his biggest regret is working so much right after that child was born. He told me his safe life marrying his HS sweetheart and crushing this sales job is monetarily nice but it wasn’t fulfilling enough to fill the entire the cup of life.
He told me it’s cooler to go live a life of adventure. I can fail horribly, learn from those mistakes, and keep going.
I’m 27 now. I don’t know if it’ll all pay off. I am certain I will live without regret. I see a lot of my friends making way more than me but they don’t sound happy. No wrong way to do it. We all get to choose and that’s the beauty of the game. I’m choosing to embrace risk and uncertainty. Without risk and uncertainty I’ll never evolve into the version of myself I want to become.
“It’s all risky” -Jim Rohn
You can brainwash yourself into liking the gym, and the work you keep putting off. The people who do these things every day aren't forcing it. It feels easy to them, and you can do the same.
The thing stopping you usually isn't laziness. It's that the action feels heavy before you start. Your brain guesses how bad something will feel, and it guesses high, so the dread shows up before the gym does. But the dread isn't about the gym. It's about your brain's guess, and a guess can be changed. You change it by running the whole thing in your head first, in detail, before you do it for real. Walk through the action in your mind enough times, paired with a light and easy feeling, and your brain stops expecting misery.
There's a physical reason this works. When you vividly imagine moving, the same brain circuits that fire during real movement fire too, the signal travels almost all the way to your muscles, then gets cut off right before it moves them. Those circuits get stronger with repetition whether the reps are real or imagined. People who only imagined practicing piano ended up with nearly the same brain changes as the ones who actually played. So when you finally do the thing, it isn't foreign. You've done it before, in a way, so it's easier to do for real.
Here's how to actually do it.
Get in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Pick a trigger that already happens every day, like your alarm going off or closing your laptop at the end of a shift. Tying the new behavior to something that's already there is the part that matters most. Once the link is built, the alarm fires the behavior automatically, the same way a smell can drop you into a memory before you've decided anything.
Then run the action from inside your own eyes, not watching yourself from across the room.
For the gym: hear the alarm, feel yourself getting up before you can talk yourself out of it, your clothes going on, walking out to the car in the cold, the drive there, the gym door, the smell of the place. Then the weight in your hands, the bar, your breathing picking up, the burn in the middle of a set, and you just keep going.
For work: feel yourself sitting down at your desk, your coffee next to you, looking at the task without it feeling like too much, picking the first small piece, and starting it instead of reaching for your phone.
By the time you actually go, you've already done it in your head dozens of times, so it doesn't feel like starting from zero. The first move gets easier the more you run it.
Things that actually changed how i think and feel:
- spent time with old people who are not afraid to die
- lifted heavy things repeatedly for years, until my body started teaching my mind
- learned another language just to feel stupid again
- treated sleep like it's sacred, because it is
- read history, not philosophy. history is philosophy with the blood left in
- read scripture, not for belief, but because the words rewrite your nervous system
I read this book nearly 10 years ago.
In the last decade, I’m not sure there’s a single passage from any book I’ve reflected on more than this one.
“It would be infinitely foolish of me to focus exclusively on a job that many others can do if it comes at the cost of the role that only I can fill. Before we look to be excellent anywhere else, we must first be excellent in our homes.”
Today felt like the right day to share it.
Happy Father’s Day to the men doing their best to lead well both at work and at home.