Life does not determine our character,,, it reveals it 🙏🏾
As someone who battled addiction and is in recovery and fights every day,,, I applaud everyone who speaks up and makes people feel like they ain’t alone. Be kind,,, you never know what battle someone else is going thru ✊🏾
@aziz0nomics Meanwhile supporting a man who started a war no wanted to cover up what’s in the Epstein files is apparently cool with all of you. Self righteous hypocrites.
@unlearn16tweet 54-40 or fight! As a neighboring state to BC we even learned some Canadian history but I know you all learn far more about us. Duh a disservice to all of the Americas and the world.
@MGPforCongress@IAM751 That’s not your district. Had to go to Seattle for it? Yet @bhennrich managed their Olympia District 695 which does include employees living in your District 3. That’s disappointing.
@terri_niles@bhennrich Actually the District may not be but it’s likely some of the workers do live in District 3 unlike the MGP endorsement from Seattle and District 751.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the extraordinary outbursts of the President of the United States against female journalists... well, actually against journalists in general and journalism. But it feels like he saves his most childlike behavior and irrational language for female reporters, calling them all kinds of names that kids in kindergarten are given times out for. It’s stunning to me to witness such behavior from any leader, any CEO, any person of influence or importance. I’ve never witnessed someone like this raging, this weekend with @meetthepress host @kwelkernbc, just last week in the Oval Office with @cnn’s @kaitlancollins, calling women stupid or piggy, telling them to “smile”, calling them darling, demeaning their credibility. Every good man should denounce this behavior. Every person should be able to stand up for their colleagues and say “No more.”
Imagine this man screaming like this at your daughter, your wife, your sister, your mother... would you stand for it? No, you wouldn’t! And neither should any of us. It’s unacceptable and undignified. Period. End of story.
Things the recovery industry will not tell you:
1. The drug worked. That is why people use it. Not weakness. Not moral failure.
A neurological event so complete and persuasive that any honest account of addiction has to start there.
The problem is not that the drug fails. The problem is that what it does is unrepeatable, and you will burn your entire life to the ground trying to get back to a place that no longer exists.
2. Shame is not guilt. Guilt says I did something bad. Shame says I am something bad. Guilt is appropriate. Shame is a cell with no windows. Most people use the words interchangeably. That mistake is lethal.
3. You cannot shame someone who has already named the thing you are holding over them. Say it first. Say it in plain light. The weapon drops.
4. Guilt can coexist with self-respect. Shame cannot. You can hold the damage and the dignity at the same time. I know because I live there.
5. Radical honesty does not give you back who you were. It hands you the clean slate of who you always wanted to be. The mask comes off. The cartoon other people drew of you stays on the page.
6. Nobody gets clean on a winning streak.
7. You have to be almost self-delusional in your forgiveness of yourself. (Go watch Chase Hughes)
8. The greatest sin was not the chaos. It was the absence. Being unavailable to the people who needed you.
9. Sustainable recovery starts with one thing: honesty with yourself. If you love an addict and want to help, that is the only door in.
10. I am only an expert on my recovery. Nobody is an expert on anyone else’s.
What awful thing to say to someone. While that’s not true in my case it is true for so many. Comments like this make it really difficult for people to feel that there is anywhere safe for them to share their stories. I’m sure you didn’t mean this to be cruel in that way but please try and do better. Not for me. Make fun of me all you want. But for anyone who has faced that trauma and is trying to survive out there.