You are not changing your life. You are changing yourself. The life is the effect. You are the cause. Most people try to change the effect without changing the cause. It doesn't work. You have to become someone new. And then the new life is just the natural consequence.
Bro to bro;
Your workmates are not your friends. Listen, everyone is there for an income. Avoid gossip. Don't brag. Do your job. Get paid. Go home. Keep your private life to yourself.
If you have big goals, realize that the journey will take everything and promise nothing. This is the deal. Don’t be so entitled to think you’re owed results just because you put the work in. You’re not owed shit. But even if working hard doesn't guarantee success, not working hard guarantees with absolute certainty that you will fail.
you are a man
what are you afraid of?
death? everyone dies
going broke? you can rebuild
embarrassment? they'll forget next week
failure? try again
there's nothing to fear
start acting like a man
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.