nobody talks about how weird it is being kinda suicidal. it’s not like you plan on doing it but everything just feels heavy and exhausting and you wouldn’t mind if something happened but on the other hand you can’t go because you have pets and loved ones.
He cheated on her multiple times during their relationship and she forgave him every time and defended him publicly. She also has helped him raise his two kids from previous relationships and treat them as her own. She supported him throughout his entire career and helped him get healthy again too. Now he’s the one leaving her. Ladies this is why you need to stop forgiving him bum ass men who don’t deserve you. If they cheat, LEAVE. Give an ugly man a chance and he’ll act like he rules the world.
Nothing erodes a relationship faster than realizing your partner is capable of showing up fully for other people, just not for you.
You watch them give time, energy, patience, and attention to friends, coworkers, or even strangers in ways you’ve been quietly asking for all along.
That realization stings because it reveals something deeper than simple busyness.
The effort exists. The care is possible.
However, when it consistently appears everywhere except in your relationship..
It sends a painful message that the problem was never a matter of capacity, it was a matter of priority.
Sometimes male anger at ‘women getting special treatment’ reminds me of a gorilla experiment.
One gorilla gets a banana every hour. The females next to him get one every four hours. Then someone decides to be ‘fairer’ and gives the females a banana every two hours instead. The original gorilla? He flips out. He’s still getting his banana every hour, but it feels like a loss because his advantage shrank.
That’s how a lot of men react to basic fairness for women: not as justice, but as theft.
hardest pill i had to swallow this year was learning how to pick myself back up and cope without the people i thought would be in my life for a long time. i had to realize that you have to do shit for yourself, because the only person who will put you back on your feet is you.