Nobody tells you this: You can wake up and decide that's enough. Enough of the low standards. Enough of the bad habit. Enough of the outdated identity. Enough of whatever. You don't need some dramatic reason, either. It's perfectly reasonable to wake up one day, say "this no longer works for me," and make a change. You can reinvent yourself. Today, tomorrow, and as many times as you need to create the life you want.
Reasons why you’re not moving up the dominance hierarchy:
You’re not good at anything significant enough for society to benefit from.
A good metric to use is “how many people are reliant on you?”
If you died now, how many people would suffer as a result?