@Favwontmiss Small talk is a Level 1 conversation: pleasant tones, phatic exchanges; It almost doesn't matter what you say,so long as you follow the rhythm, it ends, you forget about it.
Friends is Level 2, substance, personal history, expectations context, where do you start? & so on.
@dennisbhooper As a teen into Metal and Industrial music, my reactions to hearing about a band called "The Suicide Machines" and then hearing what they sound like were *wildly* different.
@Deepthough700 There's this weird idea that if you're hurt by someone, you're supposed to sit them down and gently tell them in soft, neutral language, followed by a "debate" where if you fail to convince them that you were actually hurt, it doesn't "count" and you're a cruel "Avoidant" etc.
There's a wrestler named Trick Williams, and I wanted to make a joke about how he should get together with veteran actor Treat Williams, but I imagine that fans of either person would be completely unaware of the existence of the other, so the joke would be "too clever by half"