Parenthood is a shared responsibility. When childcare becomes a moral test only for women, it stops being about the baby and starts being about controlling women’s roles.
As a married woman who has given birth, your primary job should be to take care of your baby until they reach a certain age.
If you aren’t self employed, there’s a need to quit your job for that period and properly take care of your child.
My friend who works in a bank gave birth last November. She was given three months maternity leave and will resume work next Monday.
I asked her to take her baby to work but she said it doesn’t work that way and she isn’t permitted to carry her child along.
She said she has arranged for a woman to come to their house and take care of the baby until she returns from work by 5 pm.
It didn’t sit well with me at all because I don’t understand why a three month old baby should be left under the care of an outsider.
Let me even excuse it and assume it’s a relative she’s leaving the baby with, it’s still a no for me.
As a mother who has just given birth, I don’t care how ambitious or career driven you are, stay at home and focus on your children.
They’re too fragile to be left in the hands of people you barely know. So many crãzy and heartbreaking things are happening to children left with nannies or housemaids.
Your children should come first before your job.
I hope you listen.
Shalom!
A 92-year-old man who buried three wives and outlived two divorces told me what kills love faster than anything else.
He said: "It's not fighting. It's not cheating. It's not falling out of love.
It's this one silent habit couples do every day without noticing."
Here it is…
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