have yall ever met someone who is evil as fuck but disguises it as them being like a moral justice empath .... but they very clearly just want to control everyone around them
You being told that you don't understand an experience exclusive to POCs are not racism. You saying "somewhat pretty black girl" IS racism. Worry about that.
i remember i used to work with this somewhat pretty black girl & she was always complaining about how she had to get weaves, her nails done, wear makeup etc & when i inquired why in an attempt to be supportive & nice to let her know it wasn’t necessary bc i literally show most places barefaced & my hair barely brushed, she said “you don’t have too bc you’re white.” that really opened my eyes on how blatantly unknowingly racist most ppl are against us crackers
kalau mau jadi pendamping korban KS atau seseorang yang sedang mengalami krisis bunuh diri, at least pahami dulu basic pendampingannya, guys.
jadi pendamping itu bukan cuma jadi teman curhat, dengerin cerita mereka, lalu ngambil keputusan berdasarkan apa yang menurut kita paling benar.
ada prinsip consent, kerahasiaan, otonomi, pendekatan trauma-informed, sampai kemampuan mengenali risiko dan tau kapan harus mencari bantuan profesional.
WHO sendiri punya pedoman khusus untuk respons terhadap kekerasan seksual, sementara WHO juga membahas penilaian risiko bunuh diri dalam panduan mhGAP. artinya, dua situasi ini membutuhkan pengetahuan dan pendekatan yang sesuai, bukan disamaratakan.
kita nggak harus menjadi psikolog untuk mendengarkan dan menemani seseorang. tapi, kita perlu sadar batas kapasitas diri, nggak asal mengambil tindakan, dan tahu kapan situasinya sudah membutuhkan bantuan profesional.
niat baik itu titik awal, bukan pengganti pengetahuan. karena ketika seseorang mempercayakan kerentanannya kepada kita, ada tanggung jawab untuk memastikan bantuan yang kita berikan tidak justru menambah luka. ♡
bacaan:
— WHO (2014), Health Care for Women Subjected to Intimate Partner Violence or Sexual Violence: A Clinical Handbook
— SAMHSA (2014), SAMHSA’s Concept of Trauma and Guidance for a Trauma-Informed Approach
— WHO (2015), mhGAP Intervention Guide
sebetulnya saran “off sosmed” / pernyataan “sosmed bkn tempat aman” itu tdk bs dijadikan saran tunggal yg aksesibel bg penyintas. nggak semua org pny safety net di dunia nyata, medsos justru bs jd satu-satunya tempat penyintas bernafas. mau ke mana lagi kl rl-nya aja represif?
If yall don't know these are my two afro-native ocs
Winona is Lakota-Afro American
Yishka is Dine-Afro American
I also have Itzeli who is Oaxacan-Afro Haitian but i haven't designed her yet