nonmonogobee

a spot to put my non monogamy thoughts

[polyamproud @polyamproud]

whew boy do we have some news for you!

to everyone who has asked “when is the vote?” or “when can we see the designs?”, the answer is: right now 🤩.

the vote will remain open at https://t.co/cUVWqAiomH until November 22.

[Remodeled Love @RemodeledLove]

Consistency is a love language.

[Dr. Nurse (is writing 50k/90) @KeyanahNurse]

I am grateful for having a loving, healthy, and amazing relationship with a partner who made it safe to explore non-monogamy together. I remain in awe of his patience and introspection as we embarked on that journey together, yet invariably and necessarily apart.

[Shrimp Teeth @ShrimpDentist]

Theory vs practice in polyamory: MOST people will say they’re chill about you hooking up with others, hearing about metas, etc. and mean in… IN THEORY. But when it comes to practice, they’ll get overwhelmed by jealousy, have to face insecurities, and not be chill at all.

[polyamproud @polyamproud]

allow us to introduce and show our deep
appreciation for the first three members of the 2022
polymorous pride flag selection committee,
@lavitaloca34, @marjanilane,& @poliactivismo!

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

everyone talks about how nice #polyamory is in regards to stepping off the relationship escalator, but recently i’m struggling with finding how to still take those steps with the partner(s) i want to. 😵‍💫

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

@polyamproud don’t beat yourself up if you can’t show up exactly as each partner wants! just do your best and trust that it’s enough 🖤

[polyamproud @polyamproud]

with valentine’s day coming up here’s a reminder to check in with each of your partners what the holiday means to them and make space to approach each relationship individually (even if you all want to celebrate together)!

what are some of your #polyamory tips for the holiday??

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

where are all my #polyamorous people at with the confusing feeling of - “it shouldn’t be this hard?” coming up in your relationships?

i always find myself not being able to separate what is polyam challenges and what is incompatibility (and then i stay too long!), any advice?😞

[🖊Shannon Burton, SXI (they/she) @SexCoachShannon]

You can't "make polyamory work" with someone who doesn't want polyamory.

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

lots of people looking out for me/advocating for me/helping me!

can feeling challenging to date (own brain), and stress flares up my chronic health condition - can make a relationship with lots of people really hard!

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

oop! here’s a new question for the group:

#polyamory community who deals with chronic health conditions, what are some of the good things/challenging things that have come from polyamory in regards to your health?

i’ll go first ⬇️⬇️

[Leanne Yau @polyphiliablog]

Sometimes, your jealousy isn’t rooted in insecurities/trauma, but is actually evidence that you are being neglected and mistreated by your partner. When your jealousy is based in reality, don’t gaslight yourself into believing it’s an internal issue you just need to “process”.

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

just a small reminder to keep asking questions, and keep being open to answering questions!

#polyamory is made a lot easier when it is safe to be curious and safe to be honest 🖤

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

what’s one piece of advice you would’ve given yourself at the beginning of your #polyamory journey?

i’ll go first -

you have agency in all the relationships connected to you (partners, metas, etc). don’t just sit back and watch, speak up! your peace is important!

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

#polyamory reminder:

even if you enjoy spending time with your partners/metas as a group, its okay to have emotional or physical limits to it!

I find that once I leave those shared spaces I realize I had been holding my breath a tiny bit. Be honest, be kind, be you!

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

just like how no two monogamous relationships look the same, no two polyamorous people will experience relationships in the same way!

be gentle with yourselves!

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

small reminder: there’s only a handful of popular #polyamory accounts or celebrities who openly share they are polyam. so if your version of polyamory looks different than what you’re seeing that’s great! if it looks similar that’s great too!

[polyamproud @polyamproud]

happy #polyamory day! 🖤

today we want to celebrate the long way we’ve come and how far we will go as a united community!

[nonmonogobee @nonmonogobee]

me when my partners NRE is hittin just a little too hard #polyamory