it is BEYOND fucked to not tell Kayda that the ONLY reason Zach is single is because his girl was REMOVED like the set up is actually insane #loveislandusa
My kids literally give me the hardest time at bedtime, but the second they fall asleep, I immediately feel guilty for losing my patience with them 😖 #motherhood
As a parent you shouldn't be telling your kids that you sacrificed your life for them, It’s hurtful and manipulative, and it’s not true. You chose to have your kids and nobody forced you to have them. Taking care of them is your responsibility.
The only acceptable reason to have kids is that you want to nurture and care for another being.
That's it. That's all of the good reasons. Not because you want someone to take care of you in your old age, not because you want them to take on a certain career, to give you grandkids, to further your religion. None of that. To bring a child into this world with expectations makes it unethical to have one, it lays the foundation for emotional blackmail; as in, 'I brought you into this world and raised you, had you for this reason so give me that happiness'. No one owes you anything for the things you do out of your own will for your own sake, not even your children.
Sometimes I look at my child & think, oh… you’re the very first person who will ever know the real me without my defenses. And you love me the exact way the earth loves the rain. Instinctively, without keeping score, without asking me to be anything but yours. And that love feels like a magical place I didn’t know I was allowed to rest. And the wildest part is how my children hand me mercy like it’s nothing, like it’s air, like it’s the most natural thing in the world. A child’s love is the first mirror that doesn’t distort you.
I’m saying all of this because this morning when my daughter woke up she told me she has been practicing make a heart with her hands in her dreams. Only so she could say good morning to me with a heart & a kiss. I instantly started to cry. Children love you in ways that make you rethink every cruel thing you’ve ever believed about yourself.