Anxiety is just reality telling you that you haven't been busy and focused on the right priorities, and that you haven't been growing into who you actually wanted to be.
Many people grew up in a place of scarcity, only knowing zero-sum games, and have consequently nurtured the habit of hoping for other people to fail, but every successful person knows that they started to get "luckier" once they genuinely started to wish the best for others.
A lot of anxiety disappears once you wake up every day determined to close the gap between what you've been achieving and what a version of yourself with actual self-respect would think you should be achieving.
Most people don't struggle to figure out what they want from life, they actually struggle to have, just once in their lives, enough time truly alone, just them and their thoughts, to independently self-reflect on their journey so far, to question their deeply held values, to understand what was innate and what was forced onto them as they grew up; and as long as they don't do that, they will end up drifting from one empty mimetic goal to another, wasting their whole lives emulating the crowd, and actually chasing the desires of everybody else without ever understanding themselves.
Luck is a mathematical equation.
You increase your odds by putting yourself in places where rare opportunities can find you, by repeating high-upside actions long enough for variance to work in your favour, by building skills that make you useful when the door opens, by staying healthy enough to keep playing, and by taking enough intelligent risks that one of them eventually compounds.
Life is simple, first you figure out where you want to live, who you want to be with, what you want to do; then you figure out how to clear the short-term goals that will lead to the long-term vision; and finally, you figure out how to stop making excuses and just pay the price.
Now that everyone has access to the whole accumulated knowledge of mankind, and could in theory easily learn everything they need to know in order to become their best and happiest selves, it's going to become obvious as most people don't change that the problem was never access to knowledge, but intellectual curiosity, good taste when it comes to what they choose to learn, and self-respect when it comes to how they spend their free time.
Every time you convince yourself to not take the risks that you know deep down that you should take, you actually lose a bit of self-esteem and accumulate a bit more anxiety.
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People who live a great marriage aren't focused on the marriage itself, they are respectively focused on themselves, they are respectful and paying attention to each other, and they enjoy the bumpy ride with a spouse they love the daily conversations with;
people who experience a confident version of themselves aren't focused on confidence itself, they are focused compounding their skills and mastering their own mind, they follow their curiosity, they keep overcoming their fears, and they enjoy the peace of mind that happens naturally;
and people who live a wealthy life aren't focused on making money, they are focused on investing in themselves, their relationships, their ambitious goals, and they enjoy the "luck" that happens along the way.