Heidi - Persistence_Matters

Learning, healing, growing, and experiencing a more authentic life. Committed to trauma recovery and wellness.

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

One thing trauma recovery has taught me is to check in & discern, am I choosing this because I'm interested, curious, inspired?

I survived emptiness by grinding & pursuing nothing but perfection in sport, school, & career, only to learn in recovery, I just wanted be of value 😩

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

Adult children of emotionally immature or caregivers lacking attunement feel as though they're living life on a disabled vessel out at sea. We drift, scan, drift some more. We fight like hell to survive, to be noticed, to be of value, to matter.
We don't KNOW that we matter.

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

Emotional neglect is so insidious.
Many adults who experienced emotional neglect growing up live in this 'vacuum'.
We can feel empty, detached, adrift.
Recovery starts out rough. There's such a lack of self awareness because we don't even feel any sense of Self to attune too.

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@Feats_Strength Fuck, I felt that. Thank you. You get it. 👊

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

Emotional neglect is so insidious.
Many adults who experienced emotional neglect growing up live in this 'vacuum'.
We can feel empty, detached, adrift.
Recovery starts out rough. There's such a lack of self awareness because we don't even feel any sense of Self to attune too.

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@Herbalisque I actually started watching, then ffwd to the end knowing this one was definitely one of the bizillions of ridiculous DIY videos on social media.
Ugh. Now to delete.

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@DrDoyleSays Persistent, intentional, and reflective.

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@AimTrue7 @arwajid Ah yes, something I worked on in therapy this week. So important. 💫

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@pigeonxphoenix @rumilyrics @TraumaHealing23 @ZoeFenton4 @Helene_ebba @TrinaTrisk @Michael_Jameszz I do appreciate you, my friend. And you know what?
You will win, too. ❤️‍🩹💫

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@forestvanslyke @AimTrue7 @DrBobBeare @BeTraumaFree @TraumaHealing23 @Feats_Strength @_BLShelton I'm not sure if you are on Instagram, but if you aren't, there is also incredible content, support, and learning on Instagram.

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@forestvanslyke I see you. Trauma recovery takes a lot of work what it is so worthwhile. The trauma community here on X is such a beautiful support. I invite you to follow:
@AimTrue7 @DrBobBeare @BeTraumaFree @TraumaHealing23 @Feats_Strength @_BLShelton

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@Michael_Jameszz Thank you! 🙏💫

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

Guess what? I'm going to be a GRANDPARENT in January! 😱
Initially the news hit & got lodged in a sticky web of intergenerational trauma.
Carrying the legacy of emotional abandonment hit hard.
Grandmas in my line have STRUGGLED, but I'm showing up for this!
I'm nervous-cited😍

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@AimTrue7 Leadership is about being of service. It's about showing up to empower others to be their best selves. It's about providing support, encouragement, acknowledgment, and resources.
Reacting to people and situations in big ways diminishes the very essence of leading.

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@SoMCoaching Why the push???!!!

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

Complex trauma brings what feels like endless layers of healing.
As I go deeper, periods of activation offering opportunity to self lead and shift, instead have me feeling moments of defeat.
ive been here before...a few times. Yet, parts of me so loud I can barely hear my Self.

[Scott @Havenlust]

“If you truly love nature, you will find beauty everywhere.”

— Vincent van Gogh

[Dr. Julie Gurner @drgurner]

Early in my career, I did some work in a supermax prison. My mentor was a Holocaust survivor & psychiatrist.

Here are 5 lessons I’ll never forget, and hope you don’t either...

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

@AimTrue7 It took me years to see the difference between - getting the job done well - and pushing to bypass any chance of feeling fragile, vulnerable, disposable, etc.

That lack of acknowledgment still gets me from time to time.

[Heidi - Persistence_Matters @Persistence982]

Attachment trauma is its own kind of hell. I know. That's harsh.

Being aware that lows are cyclical has to be enough.

Connection in these lows are hard bc of the calibre of tracking & checking we're engaged in.
It projects insecurity that oversteps on others.
It will pass

[Mark Toner @MarkTonerX]

If you're a parent and your child ever comes to you and let's you know that they've been touched inappropriately, believe them. I don't care who it is, if it's there father, uncle, teacher, friend, believe them.

Don't be a coward and try to run from it or pretend they didn't tell you, believe them and do something about it. Protect your child.

They need you to stand up for them. They need your protection. Their life is in your hands. The decision you make today is going to define the life they have in the future.