Shamina

CPA MBA

[Niket Raj Dwivedi @niketrajdwivedi]

@shl The place crashed :P https://t.co/ZeHAXPfB8g

[𝙋𝙖𝙢𝙢𝙮 ✨️ @_Pammy_DS_]

Being in a healthy relationship truly taught me there is no such thing as "that's just the way I am". When you genuinely love someone you work on those toxic traits, you learn to communicate, you actively listen to each others thoughts and feelings – you grow and heal together.

[Stacy Mitchell, DO @stacybmitchell]

My husband went to register our twins at their new middle school today. The counselor hesitantly asked “Is…Mom…in the picture? Because moms usually do this.”

MOM IS BUSY LEARNING HOW TO BE A DOCTOR AND THEY ARE JUST AS MUCH HIS CHILDREN, OMG WHAT YEAR IS THIS??

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

What if it’s no one’s fault.

What if no one is to blame.

What if everyone involved was doing the best they could.

And you just focused on being kind to yourself while you heal.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

A true apology involves:
1. An acknowledgment of pain caused
2. How behavior will change in the future
3. Listening fully to how you’ve impacted someone

Have you gotten a true apology?

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

We repeat our normal.

When you grow up with fighting and dysfunction as your normal— of course you’ll end up toxic relationships.

You seek the rejection, the conflict, and the confrontation because it feels like love.

You expect the stress hormones.

Give yourself patience as you settle into the “boredom” of safe relationships.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Crying is healing.

And look how many people are shameful and apologize for it.

Crying is how the body get back into a parasympathetic state.

We really need to stop saying: “don’t cry.”

[Joe Cassandra @JoeCassandra]

There's a multi generational Asian family in our n'hood. They live in 6 houses on the street

There's about 20 kids among them

You'll see one grandma pick kids + cousins up at the bus

Another w all of them at the pool

You never see this w the avg American family

I want that

[Shamina @pixeljig]

@shl ❤️

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Anger can be a front. Most people are actually just heartbroken. Anger just feels less vulnerable.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

People communicate through their behavior, not their words.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Ex: When someone comes into the room you are easily startled because your father would go into rage cycles out of nowhere as a child.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

It can result from: childhood emotional neglect, emotionally immature parent figures, unstable or chaotic environments, witnessing parent figures dysfunctional marriage, being parentified (role reversal where the child becomes the parent) etc.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

C-PTSD (complex post traumatic stress disorder) is the result of a series of compounded childhood traumas.

[Shamina @pixeljig]

@soumya_sharma26 Free housing

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

There's a stage in our healing when we start to see our parents as wounded humans who make mistakes, rather than all knowing beings. This is the beginning of creating life on our own terms, rather than living our lives for parental approval. It's our freedom.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Narcissism comes from a lack of emotional development in childhood. If you look at narcissistic behaviors, they’re ego centric and emotionally immature— they mirror the developmental period from age 3-7. Many people don’t mature beyond this.

[Shamina @pixeljig]

@AliAbdaal Square breathing

[Shamina @pixeljig]

@NYCTSubway @ScottWeinstein3 @ValaAfshar Happens at the Columbus circle station and a few others.

[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

What did I not do because of fear?

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” — Seneca

Fear distorts reality—this question forces you to confront it.

Deconstruct the fears:
• What was the downside?
• What was the upside?

Goal: Get closer to your fears in 2023.