The older I get, the more I realize that life will test you with the same challenge until you learn the lesson. The same fight in every relationship. The same burnout in every job. The same regret in every missed chance. Until you do the inner work, the outer world won’t change.
nothing will make you more anxious than avoiding the work you know you need to do. ironically, doing the work is almost always less stressful than avoiding it. but we convince ourselves it's the opposite. and that lie costs us progress.
“Back then, marriage used to last.”
Yeah, because your grandma couldn’t open a bank account or file for divorce without a man. She had no rights and nowhere to go.
I recently rewatched Legally Blonde (2001). This is what I noticed.
The fact that Elle creates an ethic of care all around her is incredibly feminist (believing Brooke and not betraying her trust, getting previously hostile rival Vivian on board, advocating for Paulette and treating her as an equal).
Elle doesn't win on ruthless male terms, she operates more ethically.
She creates a supportive community out of an initially hostile and isolating environment, and in that space all the redeemable characters thrive.
Essentially, Elle is an incredibly effective coalition builder.
#legallyblonde
I've been so lucky this week. The day the shooting in NYC midtown happened I was supposed to be around that area too but somehow changed my mind last minute. Now it's been declared a state of emergency there. So lucky to be not involved in any of this and happy to head back home.