A guy on a first date asked me why I didn't want to split the bill 50/50, saying "I thought women wanted equality." I told him, "When the gender pay gap closes, when my pink tax disappears, when I don't have to spend an hour and $50 worth of makeup to meet society's baseline for looking 'presentable,' and when I don't have to text my friends my live location just to sit across from you... then we can split the bill." He didn't have much to say after that.
me remembering the time i lost my absolute mind over someone i knew for 3 months (we also never dated) just because the person was the first person to make me feel something after not feeling anything for so long
happy girlfriend's day to the girl i fumbled because i was still fighting battles within myself. you deserved a version of me i hadn't become yet. i hope you're happier than ever.
If you want to change, you have to become conscious of your unconscious patterns. You have to catch yourself in the act of being the old self. And then you have to choose differently. Not once. A thousand times. Until the new choice becomes the new default.
My life changed when I realized discipline was just the highest form of self-respect. It’s choosing what you want most over what you want now. It’s keeping your word. It’s an act of service to your future self.