Ryan Thompson

disciple of Jesus; devotee of Heather; dad to Ben, Eden, Sarah Brooks, Leilani, Judah, Eve and Sam - that's right, 7!

[Ryan Thompson @rthompson]

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Don’t do what makes you feel good. Do what makes you feel good about yourself.

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@nathanbarry This is a really cool model. We’re trying to restructure compensation in our very small company. I’m curious, why is it important that the chunk of the profit pool for the team is more than half?

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I don’t understand the enjoyment that exists in our culture in evoking terror in small children this time of year.

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@thetexpat Ha! Nope - lovin’ that. Just been thinking a lot about self-imposed limits and how to move beyond them

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Don't confuse "can't" with "it's hard/I don't want to."

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Such great coaching wisdom in here.

[Dave Kline @dklineii]

Anyone who manages people has been there:

- You found the perfect person for the team
- You rationalize their initial slow start
- You see effort but little impact

That's when you go into coach mode.

But 6 months later, they're still not clicking.

Better.

But not good enough.

Is it your coaching or their fit?

Make sure you're not making any of these classic coaching mistakes:

Talking Too Much
- You're the stimulus, not the response
- Think of yourself as the prompts in a journal
- Your best tool: silence

Talking Too Little
- They're called blindspots b/c they can't see them
- Do your questions help them discover the truth?
- Your best tool: compassionate candor

Being Too Loose
- Every journey needs a map
- Frameworks provide shape; people put in the effort
- Your best tool: accountability

Being Too Rigid
- You're coaching humans, not AI models
- Meet them where they are, not where you wish they'd be
- Your best tool: active listening

You're Not The Hero
- Managers answer questions. Coaches question answers.
- Guide them to solve the problem, don't solve it.
- Your best tool: Socratic questioning

You're Not The Expert
- The problem is that you might be the expert
- With coaching, you create space for them to be
- Your best tool: curiosity

There's one other mistake, but it's not yours.

You can't coach someone who doesn't want to improve.

There's a classic scene in Friday Night Lights. Coach Taylor sees one of his star players, Smash Williams, who stopped playing football because he injured his knee senior year and lost his scholarship.

Coach keeps trying to coax him back. Smash keeps avoiding his help.

Finally, Coach throws down the gauntlet:

"I can't want this for you."

You might be an amazing coach, but they have to want it.

The last mistake to avoid:

Don't confuse a lack of skill for a lack of will.

I'm still finding my groove on X. If this resonates with you, please share it or jump in on the comments. And give me a follow @dklineii for more like it.

[Dave Kline @dklineii]

Anyone who manages people has been there:

- You found the perfect person for the team
- You rationalize their initial slow start
- You see effort but little impact

That's when you go into coach mode.

But 6 months later, they're still not clicking.

Better.

But not good enough.

Is it your coaching or their fit?

Make sure you're not making any of these classic coaching mistakes:

Talking Too Much
- You're the stimulus, not the response
- Think of yourself as the prompts in a journal
- Your best tool: silence

Talking Too Little
- They're called blindspots b/c they can't see them
- Do your questions help them discover the truth?
- Your best tool: compassionate candor

Being Too Loose
- Every journey needs a map
- Frameworks provide shape; people put in the effort
- Your best tool: accountability

Being Too Rigid
- You're coaching humans, not AI models
- Meet them where they are, not where you wish they'd be
- Your best tool: active listening

You're Not The Hero
- Managers answer questions. Coaches question answers.
- Guide them to solve the problem, don't solve it.
- Your best tool: Socratic questioning

You're Not The Expert
- The problem is that you might be the expert
- With coaching, you create space for them to be
- Your best tool: curiosity

There's one other mistake, but it's not yours.

You can't coach someone who doesn't want to improve.

There's a classic scene in Friday Night Lights. Coach Taylor sees one of his star players, Smash Williams, who stopped playing football because he injured his knee senior year and lost his scholarship.

Coach keeps trying to coax him back. Smash keeps avoiding his help.

Finally, Coach throws down the gauntlet:

"I can't want this for you."

You might be an amazing coach, but they have to want it.

The last mistake to avoid:

Don't confuse a lack of skill for a lack of will.

I'm still finding my groove on X. If this resonates with you, please share it or jump in on the comments. And give me a follow @dklineii for more like it.

[Ryan Thompson @rthompson]

@thetexpat I’m on the way over.

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@thetexpat 🤣🤣I can relate.

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@thetexpat Ha! You’re welcome…and welcome back.

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@MarkMcGrathCFP I’m sorry. Thank you for sharing your story. Similar thing happened to my dad within 6 months of retiring soon after turning 60. That was 19 years ago. His family (wife, 2 married sons, 10 grandkids) have missed having him in their lives. We need more than the carrot of success.

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@wdmorrisjr I recently made a picture of my beautiful wife the lock screen on my phone, and every time I look at it, I say to myself, “You’re the one.”

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@wdmorrisjr This is a fantastic thread. It’s hard not to think about relationships as transactions. “I feel like I’m not getting out of it what I put into it. But husbands are called to radical, unconditional love. The advice to own our culpability and focus all attention on her is key.

[Ryan Thompson @rthompson]

I’ve always enjoyed reading, but rarely made time for it consistently. And I’m terrible at finishing things. Goal for 2023: read 10 pages a day. I’ve only missed four days thur far this year. Just finished my second book. Here’s to progress.

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@BoilerPlateCPA Open-Book Management: Coming Business Revolution, The https://t.co/ahjHUnAL2d

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@BoilerPlateCPA Finishing John Case’s book Open-Book Management. “People can’t make good decisions unless they have information and the ability to understand it. They won’t make decisions in the best interest of the company unless they have a stake in the company’s success.” p.177

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One of your best posts - thanks for sharing!

[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

Today is my 32nd birthday.

Over the last month, I asked several 90-year-olds what advice they would give to their 32-year-old selves.

Here's the life advice everyone needs to hear:

[Ryan Thompson @rthompson]

@lexfridman @coffeebreak_YT Just listened to this. So good.