Ruky Bello

another obsessed learner | I help people understand themselves and build stable, healthy relationships.

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

My favourite name is Tèmítáyọ̀.
It means “mine is worthy of joy”.

My dad gave me that name and it was very intentional.

He had a tragic accident that almost got his legs amputated just before I was born.

It took God’s grace through one healthcare worker to avert the

[Dan Go @CoachDanGo]

Something I noticed when I visited China was public schools always started their days off with a run.

A school in Naperville, Illinois, did an experiment on this and called it "Zero Hour".

Before school, students would hit the gym at 7am and push their heart rates to 80% of their max. Then went on to do class.

The result? Reading scores doubled. Math scores jumped 20x.

On an international test, Naperville 8th graders finished 1st in science (beating Singapore) and 6th in math globally.

Some of my entrepreneur clients swear by doing cardio in the morning. They say it keeps their brain sharp. I don't disagree.

Cardio isn't just for your heart. It's brain fuel.

Exhaust the body to sharpen the mind.

[Chicken Catcher🐔 @Only1Etubo]

Again, for those of us with kids at home, please be patient with them. In everything you do, always remember their age. Their brains are still developing, and they cannot handle too much information at once.

Some of you bombard them with too much information and then spank them when they forget. Please stop it. They are not stupid. They are not dumb. They are not slow. They are just kids trying to learn how many things work.

Some parents send their kids to do five different things, and when the child remembers the first and second things but forgets the rest, they begin to cry. Then, when they finally gather a little courage to come talk to you with tears streaming down their face, you beat them on top of that. Not cool.

Here’s what you can do to help them:

- Send them to do one thing at a time, or maybe two things at a time, depending on how old they are. You are their parent, you should know.

- Ask them to repeat the instructions after you. For example: “Go and bring me a comb, a knife, and a bandage.” Then ask them to look at you and repeat: “Comb, knife, bandage.”, and if they come back with two things instead of three, try again, if it doesn't work, then that should tell you something. Give them time, and they will get there. I promise.

Please don’t beat them. Instead of beating them… come and beat me. 🤲🏾🥹

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

What’s this nonsense with Airtel restricting basic websites on my mobile but the router works???

[Dr Ola Brown @NaijaFlyingDr]

A cycle where female unpaid labor generates male-controlled capital, which is then reinvested in acquiring more unpaid female labor

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

@Abbas_bnSanusi 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Who vexed this person o🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Abuja President ⚖️ @AbujaPresident]

Being divorced or separated with your wife, doesn't concern your kids. Go & pay their school fees.

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

@YusufAsunmogejo @CoveredInWords recall my take on this some years back about what a man represents being the issue and not jealousy?

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

I need a good maths tutor for my boys.
Could be virtual.
3 to 4 times a week or as needed based on the desired outcomes that will be communicated.

Referrals are welcome.

Thanks

[Michael Strong @flowidealism]

It is super creepy to let toddlers just hang out with screens for entertainment. Perhaps there are extreme circumstances in which it is necessary as a temporary expedient (single bed ridden parent with no support?), but even that is tragic at best.

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

@mariahsudi I’m beginning to think so

[That Rabbit Guy @Son_ImSleep]

Any consistent responsibility will expose an unstable relationship. A leaky roof can fool the sunshine, but not the rain

[Abu Asaad @Abu_Aliyyu]

That’s the kind of love people don’t always talk about.

He didn’t make a speech, didn’t turn it into a big moment… he just showed up and stayed. And in times like that, that’s everything.

Those small, consistent actions, being present, helping out, making sure she wasn’t alone. Those are the things that stick for life.

[Dr Ola Brown @NaijaFlyingDr]

Then don't let your wife spend it. She should work full time as well. And the kids can be raised by wolves in the forest and become feral children.

[Dr Ola Brown @NaijaFlyingDr]

For me I have never had to forgive him. Only myself.

Whenever you feel yourself getting upset with your spouse as a comrade,it's your own fault for not using enough aboniki balm.🙏

[Justin Skycak @justinskycak]

The cost of avoiding structure is that every day has to be renegotiated from scratch.

[kelly @kellytheboss7]

WHY NOBODY TALKS ABOUT THIS…
Some children didn’t grow up in homes. They grew up in battlegrounds disguised as families. Where silence meant danger was coming, and footsteps in the hallway could change the whole mood of the night.
They didn’t feel safe. They just learned how to disappear emotionally while still being physically present.

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

We prioritize aesthetics over functionality many times. See our window slices too

[Ayo-Elesho @Ayoelesho]

Nigerians switched from using louvres, which provided full ventilation, to sliding windows, which provide only partial ventilation.

Now, everyone is complaining of heat after blocking air from entering their rooms.

Why are we so backward in everything we do?

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

@Ayoelesho @telemaspeaks

[kelly @kellytheboss7]

It’s very unnatural to submit to someone less intelligent or less capable than yourself.

[Ruky Bello @ruky_unscripted]

@Haaaaajira Its neglect