Onoriode

Let's say no to injustice and oppression of our fellow citizens 🙌🏾

[Onoriode @rxonoriode]

There is no influence so powerful as that of the mother, but next in rank in efficacy is that of the schoolmaster.
Sarah Josepha Hale

[Neto @docneto]

I see many young entrepreneurs limit themselves because of the fear they have of rejection. Let me tell you, I've been rejected so many times I can't count anymore.

Even in instances where I thought rejection was unlikely, like the Tony Elumelu entrepreneurship programme when it first started. I thought I had a shoo-in for sure; yet they picked 1,000, and I wasn't one of them on two occasions.

If I had given up then, I wouldn't have had the many wins I've racked up since. My most recent significant win, which I can't announce yet, came after a collaborator told me not to limit myself and aim higher. I heeded their advice with fear, put in the extra work, and an email came back to say, 'Yes, we love your proposal and choose you!'

At every stage we will always be afraid of what's next. Feel the fear and proceed anyway. The worst you will get is a rejection, and that never killed anybody, but you may also get a "yes", and you will be super elated that you ventured.

[Neto @docneto]

Increase your surface area for luck by starting more conversations, meeting more people and just going outside more. Nothing big happens on your bed, get up and move!

[justine @justinemach_]

an idiot in motion goes further than a genius at rest

[Onoriode @rxonoriode]

@asemota Kindness what now 😅

[Osaretin Victor Asemota @asemota]

I have friends who are older and very fit because of their lifestyle. They don't drink or smoke and exercise daily. They also have the most unfit kids who don't follow their example. This has always worried me as I am raising young children. I have also seen families with hard-working and wealthy parents who raise the laziest and most entitled children.

We always want our children to do better than us, but when and where does this go wrong for most people? I think it comes from the time and attention we personally give our kids and the lapses we allow.

My wife and I are early risers. I have a particular sleep problem I am still trying to solve, but my kids can sleep all day on vacation if you let them. A friend with an older son who had just graduated and was back home, jobless, used to tell me how alarmed he was that the son would go out all night, come back early in the morning, and sleep all day.

I told him then that if he didn't force him to change that habit, he would remain jobless and stay with his parents longer. They eventually forced him to change, and he moved out. He has a job now and struggles a lot. His parents are concerned that he isn't thriving. He is now almost 30, and I think about this all the time. At 25, I was a beast and had started many businesses.

While we want our kids and young adults to experience life on their own terms in a world vastly different from the one we grew up in, we can't help but notice that others whose children were more disciplined are thriving better. One indicator I have seen that correlates with success in younger people is fitness.

A friend’s son started going to the gym regularly, and he even inspired his cousins to do so. I checked on LinkedIn recently, and he is doing exceptionally well as a lawyer and investment banker without any family connections or assistance. His younger cousins, who are looking up to him, are following in his footsteps. I decided to get my kids to spend more time with him.

The role models our children need may be closer to their age than ours. It is why we need to amplify the lifestyles of young, disciplined, and successful people more. Not every person will make it through creative pursuits. I stress this to my kids all the time. There are billions of YouTube channels, but there is only one MrBeast or IShowSpeed.

Social media is highlighting more unrealistic role models than the most useful ones. My daughter is likely one of the most intelligent young children that I know, but because she doesn't want to be seen as a nerd, she is adapting to popular culture to blend in, in a way that scares me. This sometimes affects the way she learns. While I don't want to restrict her now from experiencing the world, I have realized that she needs different role models.

My son’s role models are nerds, and he nerds out in ways that surprise me and it is also worrying. We can be watching a movie, and he goes online to research it and summarise the plot so he can leave to code. He is not experiencing life enough outside the internet.

They will either eventually be ok in a world very different from ours or struggle in a world that becomes worse than ours, without the skills to build personal resilience and strong social skills.

I recently had a personal experience that made me realize I was fortunate to have left home early and to have different role models from my parents. Having a broken home led to different outcomes for my siblings and me, but the fact that I had strong personalities like my mother’s uncle and the uncles I grew up around helped me learn a lot more about life and priorities.

The world is a very complex place, and life is not a bed of roses. While we want the best outcomes for our kids, we have to finally admit that they will learn far more from others than they will ever learn from us. The best thing we can do for them is expose them to the right kind of people early enough, then hope and pray that we didn't misread those people.

[Osaretin Victor Asemota @asemota]

What used to be very tiring about dating in those days, when I was a bachelor, was constantly being on guard, as if the other person were an adversary. You go back and start analyzing every move.

You start thinking about every word you said and the response. What is happening at that stage, without your realization, is insecurity and distrust. Both are bad signs.

My best man, Fidelis, solved it all eventually for me. He said, "When there is too much brainwork in a relationship, forget it. "

That principle became so true and saved me a lot of headaches. It also made me know when it was the right person and the right time to get married, as there was no longer any permutation, combination, or brainwork. The trust was complete and implicit.

When you start wondering about the other person's motives, you should have a conversation about it instead of pretending that all is well. The book "Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell helped me a lot. Especially the part where he mentions the marriage counselor who could predict breakups by reading body language.

The first sign to know that a relationship will not survive is contempt. It only gets worse, and most relationships never recover from it. If anyone thinks they are too good for you, for any reason, please free them on time. When there is too much brainwork in a relationship, forget it.

I told someone exactly this, and she still went ahead. She was the one who had all the contempt over many red flags, but felt she had put too much effort and too much time into it to let go. Dude finally freed her. It is always tougher for women, which is why I understand when they become very ruthless at a certain age.

As a bachelor, I was served more "breakfast" breakups by women aged 28 to 30 than by any other age group. The ghosting was legendary. They moved on like machines, and I understood. I was a very unserious person. I didn't recognize myself a decade later. I became the ruthless one before 40.

[Neto @docneto]

If you're not getting regular rejections you're not taking enough shots. If you're not taking a lot of shots you are performing below your potential. High performers get rejected a lot but always end up winning cuz they take a lot of shots.

[Onoriode @rxonoriode]

@asemota Thank God for successful surgery 🙏🏿
Wishing you speedy recovery

[Petite✨ @celeste_unusual]

Educated Hausa women accent

[Onoriode @rxonoriode]

Saw this post as soon as I finished eating.
Picked up the dishes, next thing I know I was dropping them safely in my bathroom.
Things like these are fictional till it happens to you 😡

[Javu, The first @cocojavu]

Nigeria will test you. Boy! Nigeria will test you!

I kid disappeared when he was 14, his folks searched everywhere for him with no success.

He was later discovered in prison and he was already 32. He couldn't even remember why he was arrested or how long his sentence is.

The prison doesn't have a record of his crime or sentence (that's what's making me bald with madness)

They've now secured his release though. But I'm just so mad at our condition in this country 🤬🤬🤬

[Onoriode @rxonoriode]

@asemota @PhatboiSham_ah 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Onoriode @rxonoriode]

@asemota @Ssaasquatch We would do the honourable thing and not drag you all too much epa

[Onoriode @rxonoriode]

Hmmmmmmmm 😔

[Blake Burge @blakeaburge]

Major cheat code for life: Be fully where your feet are. When you're at work, work. When you're with family, be with family. When you're resting, rest. Most people are physically present and mentally everywhere else.

[Onoriode @rxonoriode]

@asemota @ona_nky I've heard you reference them a couple of times. Now I'm wondering what they taught you and how you've been applying it so far Epa.

[Onoriode @rxonoriode]

@SeanCurve @polymathinvest1 What's the title of the book?

[Zidyep Osborn @ZidyepO]

From my mum, I learned that good women don’t just expect provision….they build, contribute, and make the load lighter.

[Aakash Gupta @aakashgupta]

There's a physicist at Stanford named Safi Bahcall who modeled this exact principle and the math is wild.

He calls it "phase transitions in human networks." When you're stationary, your probability of a lucky event is limited to your existing surface area: the people you already know, the places you already go, the ideas you've already been exposed to. Your opportunity window is fixed.

When you move, your collision rate with new nodes in a network increases nonlinearly. Double your movement (new conversations, new cities, new projects) and your probability of a serendipitous encounter doesn't double. It roughly quadruples. Because each new node connects you to their entire network, not just to them.

Richard Wiseman ran a 10-year study at the University of Hertfordshire tracking self-described "lucky" and "unlucky" people. The single biggest differentiator wasn't IQ, education, or family money. Lucky people scored significantly higher on one trait: openness to experience. They talked to strangers more, varied their routines more, and said yes to invitations at nearly twice the rate.

The "unlucky" group followed the same routes, ate at the same restaurants, and talked to the same 5 people. Their networks were closed loops. No new inputs, no new collisions.

Luck isn't random. Luck is surface area. And surface area is a function of movement.

The lobster emoji is doing more work than most people realize. Lobsters grow by shedding their shell when it gets too tight. The growth requires a period of total vulnerability. No protection, no armor, soft body exposed to the ocean.

That's the cost of movement nobody posts about. You have to be uncomfortable first. The new shell only hardens after you've already moved.

[Osaretin Victor Asemota @asemota]

@MafiaSlice, @perfexcellent, @kenju254 @EmekaOkoye @404secnotfound can we do this tomorrow afternoon or evening?

cc: @kidehen @osuide

[Michael Taiwo @AskMichaelTaiwo]

“The problem many of you have is that you're looking for who is kind to you alone, and unkind to others. Your vetting skill is terrible.”

💯

The way you do anything is the way you do everything.

If you see someone that is rude to others but nice to you, beware.

If you see someone spending on you alone (which many of you like), but selfish to others, beware.

[your boy Armani 🫂 @armanifeante]

Reducing what goes on in a boy’s head on his birthday to fake maturity is an evidence to how insensitive the other gender can be to a boy, many times even in relationships.

For boys, a lot of expectations are attached to age

While birthday is a call for studio photoshoot for some

for many boys, new age is a reminder of the apartment of their own that they should have had

It’s a reminder that they are getting too old to be where they’re financially, academically and relationship wise etc

On a normal day a boy could just sit and start thinking of how to move forward in life, that thinking is more intense on a birthday

So if they don’t send a picture of themselves as broadcast to all contacts on WhatsApp group for a repost, it’s not a flex

They are grateful for life, but when they have something truly worth celebrating they won’t hold back

It’s not fake maturity, we are usually on a date with reality and reality is not friendly.