Natalie

Hi X.

[Natalie @savtally]

I think it’s of critical importance to wives and daughters that fathers and husbands understand what we go through. It brings all of the “chaos” that gets attributed to women into order and helps make so much sense of the cycles in our lives.

Thank you for doing that for your wife and daughters! I truly hope others follow your example.

[Michael Guimarin @Guimarin]

This is a beautiful article.

A Sunday must read.

And a personal share.

Thank you, Natalie.

[Natalie @savtally]

@bowtied_analyst Thank you!!

[Natalie @savtally]

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[Aly Dee @realfemsapien]

Being a mother can be a joy if you want it to be, but joy is a choice. Most mothers choose… something else.

[Natalie @savtally]

It’s an unwillingness to let their maiden-self die. Some women are just unwilling to struggle through themselves becoming a mother. It takes 3-5 years to settle into a new way of being. Women assume it’ll be natural and/or immediate and they are set up for failure.

If we as women spoke about how critical it is that our previous selves die when we become mothers, but the beautiful birth of motherhood (literally and figuratively) and all the growth that comes with that journey, women would be more prepared for what is going to be demanded from us.

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[Natalie @savtally]

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[Natalie @savtally]

This is so good. The way you speak about it is spot on.

I write about this in my article. But being willing and able to let your previous self “die” in order to become the next version of you (maiden to mother) is where so many women get stuck. And if they’re unwilling to let that previous self go, the future of motherhood will be miserable because it’s not made for them. It’s made for the next version of them.

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[Natalie @savtally]

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[Sysy | Building Wholesome Works @FeminaStudiosa]

Parents (often those who had like 2 kids max and plenty of disposable income) gave their daughters an incredibly comfortable life of ease and convenience and planned trips and experiences and hobbies and unfortunately, too often devoid of an underlying upbringing for character and virtue. This is a critical thing to lack.

Then she was often sent to college for a walkable city experience with loads of peers and stimulation and socializing. Told to "live it up while you can" by parents and other older adults in society, framing that time as pinnacle of life, setting up expectations for a fall later.

Then she married and had a baby and suddenly, her life changed in such a way she could not mentally handle. For the first few months, if she nursed and didn't take the child to daycare, she was glued to a most needy and delicate baby and was responsible for his or her survival.

This trajectory and quick life change would be hard on most anyone. Too many girls experienced this coupled with the formal and social media all often telling her she was oppressed and powerless.

None of us can develop well and be ready for the realities of being a parent without being raised with some boundaries than create hardship and restraint, brutal truths told to us, and without character formation that feeds the brain with the working compass and proper structure for all future thinking, feeling, and behavior.

There are plenty of societal issues that contribute to unhappiness in moms but some (at every socio-economic level) do very well and I think this is their greatest advantage. They have internal moral guidance (that someone gave them!) governing their mind and actions.

[Natalie @savtally]

I never let my kids see us bailing or flaking on anything. They’re tired, cranky or we just don’t want to go? I go out of my way to improve the mood on our way with car games and great music. And if they’re not better when we get there, they’re allowed to sit with me the whole time. But we always go because we keep our word. That’s our family culture.

[Johann Kurtz @JohannKurtz]

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[Erica Komisar, LCSW @EricaKomisarCSW]

Children need their fathers — not as helpers, not as substitute mothers, not as backup. In my latest Substack, I reflect on what only fathers tend to give, and what we lose when we pretend parents are interchangeable.
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[Natalie @savtally]

@marylisa_m @gofishh77 This absolutely has happened at least once to every parent, no matter how great of a parent you are or well-behaved your child is.

What if we stopped passing judgement on parents through :50 clips on the internet?

[Socratic Experience @socraticexp]

Children crave attention. They crave it. The worst situation is when you only give your child attention when they're misbehaving and ignore them when they're good. You want to be giving them attention for the good things. Attention is love.

[Natalie @savtally]

@flowidealism I’ve sent you a message. Very interested in the openings for my daughter.

[Natalie @savtally]

Stop assuming Moms want to get away from their kids.

What moms actually want: Uninterrupted and non-stressful time to actually get to enjoy their kids.

Hire someone to come clean the house and go get takeout so I can sit on the floor and build magnetiles and legos with my kids for the whole day without feeling like I need to be doing something. Enjoying my kids is the best gift for Mothers day.

[Natalie @savtally]

We offer “always yes” alternatives to dinner: Scrambled eggs or a burger patty.

If the don’t want what I’ve made, the “always yes” food is their option. It’s a great, healthy alternative that they can cook with minimal oversight.

I will not trade what I’ve made for “kids food”. But if they truly don’t want what I’ve made, their option is to choose an “always yes” food or have breakfast in the morning.

[Natalie @savtally]

@RobertKennedyJr @realpeteyb123 @RobertKennedyJr did you ever find a way to help Peter?

[Natalie @savtally]

If @elonmusk does it right, it would be 8 seats with each row would have its own doors. It’s a MUST HAVE for large families.

Crawling through captains chairs or over benches is chaos. Cleanly entering through a row door makes so much sense (especially for adults installed car seats).

This is a MUST HAVE.

[Natalie @savtally]

@elonmusk @typesfast HE IS SPOT ON. Three rows. each having their own doors, air flow vents, comfort controls. We’ll see more babies than ever before. 🙌🏻

[Natalie @savtally]

@elonmusk I know but we need 6 child seats. Not just 3.