Attention, planning, expectation. #Chess is a regular illustration of what happens with the mismanagement of these things. Get in my head, guess where my attention was focused, see what happens. Any life lessons here? @jkhoe@agadmator@GothamChess
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@HeatherTDay Even though his behavior is not your fault, be aware that the way you present yourself and interact with him could set off cascades of processes he has no control over anymore. He needs help and Jesus, otherwise he is more like an animal than a person. Steer clear
@HeatherTDay Ladies, he has trained himself literally for years to respond to seeing your form by pursuing his own pleasure. This process has become automatic. An addict, he may have lost the tools to limit his behavior. Why? He ceded his will power to meeting his intimacy needs artificially.
@HeatherTDay I think it's healthier to think of those as conventional titles, identifiers. They function as identities as much as an individual lets them.
@StevenGrabiner Fun fact: "I have a problem" and "I have a question" are translated into the same phrase in Chinese. You could think that someone with a question is someone with a problem. But I like the other way: someone with a problem is someone with a question.
I don't aim to intimidate. But I do aim to impose, to take up space, and to let you feel my weight. This isn't to take a superior position, but to pursue a higher purpose. We can go there together.