“behind every strong independent woman is a childish girl who longs to have someone to talk to about the random things that goes through her head, someone to be her safe space, and someone to break down the walls she built.” ♡
it’s so important for me to date someone who understands my family & house situation, my background, my hectic schedule. relationship should be at least makes you feel at ease and not uneasy. it’s essential for me that i am assured that no matter who am i, no matter how messy ---
fear of abandonment and hyper independence are linked. the idea of becoming emotionally attached to someone (bc of the potential pain of them leaving) is so scary, the brain combats this closeness by triggering us to isolate when shown care and refuse help when requiring support