You know people don’t like to admit this but older cartoons they grew up with were woke and discussed social issues like this and were very on the nose about it
my mom does this constantly and it's so fucking annoying and I've now realised I get insulted by my family for demanding the smallest things because they expect me to be as self-sacrificial as my mom.
Your kids will not thank you for this, neither will your husband. You will develop resentment over not being properly appreciated for sacrifices you weren't asked to make and your family will be baffled when you one day explode at them.