bro to bro: if you like skinnier girls, get yourself a skinny girl. if you like thicker girls, get yourself a thick girl. if you like fitness girls, get yourself a fit girl. you are entitled to your own preferences.
but what you are not going to do bro, is date a girl who is not your type and make her feel inferior to other girls.
i dated a nigga that was in every bitch likes bc it’s “not that serious” & he fucked everybody. then i dated a nigga who did not play that shit bc to him likes means you wanna fuck. you would NEVER catch him liking no girls pictures. & he fucked everybody.
My abortion is the kind people love to judge the most. I wasn’t underage, I wasn’t assaulted, and there was no medical emergency. I got pregnant because I knowingly had unprotected sex, no accident, no rare failure, just my own choices.
By their standards, it was “irresponsible.” I knew abortion was an option, and I took it. Not because I couldn’t survive it or raise a child, I simply didn’t want one. I wanted sex without becoming a parent, and I chose not to carry the pregnancy.
There’s no redemption arc here. I don’t regret it. Nothing terrible happened to me afterward, no punishment, no downfall. My life is still good. And that reality alone challenges everything people like to assume about women who make this choice.
A lot of men are not being ‘disrespected’ in their relationship, they are just being accurately confronted for the first time in their life.
If every time she names a pattern you hear it as an attack, you will keep turning ordinary feedback into destructive arguments. It is easier to label her as ‘disrespectful’ than is it to admit you have never learned how to be in a relationship where your comfort is not the main priority.
Your brain recognizes the shape of a tree in 50 milliseconds, way before you're consciously aware of what you're seeing. And within seconds, your stress levels start to drop, not because of fresh air but because of the shape itself.
Trees are what mathematicians call a fractal. The trunk splits into branches, those split into smaller branches, those into twigs. Same pattern, every scale. You see this design in coastlines, rivers, clouds, even the blood vessels in your own lungs.
A physicist at the University of Oregon named Richard Taylor has been measuring this for years. He hooks people up to brain-wave monitors, shows them different images, and tracks what happens. Trees win. When people look at the kind of fractals you find in branches and bark, stress drops by up to 60%. A Swedish researcher named Caroline Hagerhall found the same thing: fractal images trigger alpha waves in your brain, the wave pattern your brain produces when you're calm but still awake.
The swaying matters because your brain runs two attention systems. One is involuntary, stuff grabbing your focus whether you want it to or not. The other is directed, the one you actively control when you concentrate or resist checking your phone. Directed attention is a limited resource. It drains. City life burns through it fast: every notification, every ad, every car you dodge crossing the street. Tree branches moving in wind hold your involuntary attention just enough to be interesting, kind of like watching a campfire, but not so much that your directed system has to engage. One system stays gently occupied while the other recharges. Psychologists call this "soft fascination."
People at the University of Michigan tested this in 2008. They had volunteers walk for about an hour through either a tree-filled park or through downtown streets, then retake memory and attention tests. The park walkers improved their scores by 20%. Downtown walkers showed zero improvement. Walking on a treadmill didn't help either, so the benefit came from the trees, not the exercise. In 2015, researchers at Stanford went further. They scanned people's brains before and after 90-minute walks. Nature walkers showed less activity in the brain region that controls rumination, when your mind gets stuck replaying the same negative thoughts in a loop. City walkers showed no change in that region at all.
The dose is small. A 2019 Michigan study measured cortisol (the hormone your body pumps out when you're stressed) from saliva samples. Just 20 to 30 minutes in any place that felt natural, a backyard, a park, anything with some green, dropped cortisol 21% per hour beyond its normal daily decline.
You don't even need to go outside. Roger Ulrich published a study in the journal Science back in 1984, tracking 46 surgery patients across nine years of hospital records. Patients whose bed had a window facing trees recovered almost a full day faster than patients facing a brick wall (7.96 days vs 8.70), needed less pain medication, and got 3.5 times fewer negative notes from nurses. Stress-related illness costs the US over $300 billion a year. A window with a tree outside it costs close to nothing.
My "Roman Empire is the realization that my life is a lottery win. Somewhere in Sudan, Pålestine, iran, Afghanistan, Iraq or Congo, there is a boy smarter than me. He is more disciplined, more resilient, and holds more potential in his single finger than I do in my entire career.
The only difference? I am siting in a train and he is sting in the rubble of his dreams.
My "bad days" are his wildest dreams.
My "burnout" is a luxury he can't afford because his only job is staying alive.
It's geographical luck and it's a haunting injustice that we all refuse to acknowledge and look away