أستحضر المشهد حين يراودنى اليأس، أقول لنفسي: لا يصحّ أو يجوز لأنني من حزب النمل. من حزب قشّة الغريق، أتشبث بها و لا أُفلتها أبداً من يدي. من حزب الشاطرة تغزل برِجْل حمارة.
#ثريد ("عطيات الأبنودي" .. رائدة صناعة الأفلام التسجيلية وأحد أهم مؤسسي السينما الوثائقية في مصر)
رحلة في عالم "عطيات الأبنودي" التي لمست جوهر البسطاء ووثقت الواقع المصري في أكتر من 25 فيلم تسجيلي (من1971 حتي 2006) أملا في تغييره للأفضل.
Someone asked how founders can make their companies huge without being overconfident. It was meant to be rhetorical question, but it has an answer, and the answer is an important one. Incrementally.
“If you want to be tougher mentally, it is simple: Be tougher. Don’t meditate on it.” — @jockowillink
It’s possible to immediately “be tougher,” starting with your next decision. Have trouble saying “no” to dessert? Be tougher. Make that your starting decision. Feeling winded? Take the stairs anyway. Ditto. It doesn’t matter how small or big you start.
If you want to be tougher, be tougher.
The most challenging thing to do is stay patient during the "identity gap" on your journey. The uncomfortable between phase. You've outgrown who you were, but you're not yet who you want to become. It's lonely. Confusing. Maddening at times. Those feelings are natural. The old version fighting for survival. Just stay the course. Stay in it. It's supposed to feel uncomfortable. The discomfort is proof of change.
You need a side quest.
Not because it will cascade into something life changing. Though it might. Not because it will unlock doors. Though it could.
But simply because it will open your eyes.
One thing I've noticed about life is that the path you choose has gravity. It’s light at first. You start out feeling like the range of paths in front of you is limitless. But with each choice, the gravity builds. Even if you like the path, it can start to feel confining. Limiting. Almost claustrophobic in a way.
There's gravity in the form of sunk costs. The feeling that you’ve spent years building a version of a life that can’t be abandoned now. It’s your salary. Your expectations. What other people think of you. Your resume. The identity you’ve formed around all of that. You can see the alternative paths, but struggle to make the case to leave the one you're on.
The more damning gravity is completely imperceptible. It builds as you progressively lose the ability to see the alternatives in front of you.
Each year you spend narrowing in on one thing is a year that builds the gravity that blinds you to everything else. It’s a sort of gravity you never even feel. Because it’s not that the change feels too heavy. It’s that it never occurs to you in the first place.
You can’t choose a door you can’t see.
That's why side quests are so important. Because they open your field of vision. You see new things. Expose yourself to new, unexpected stimuli. Inputs you didn’t plan. Ideas and people you’d never encounter.
None of that is inherently or immediately valuable, but a broader field of vision promotes an awareness of the doors that exist all around you.
You need to become a beginner again. Join a run club. Learn the piano. Take up painting. Try woodworking. Plant a garden. Teach yourself to cook. Whatever. It slows you down. It’s a small rebellion in a world that wants you to do everything with some purpose in mind.
You need a side quest.