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Blessed child 👶

[Toyyib Adewale Adelodun @taadelodun]

Asiri Nla!

#yoruba #nigeriansindiaspora #london

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Good morning, sir.

I want to assume this post is related to the viral Ugo's divorce story.

I understand your POV with regards protecting the dignity of his ex wife by not exposing her.

But you also read that she and her family wanted to ruin him and his finances, and get him deported.

Do you not think that coming online to expose her and protecting his job and finance was a good decision?

Remember the case or Nedu and his ex wife?

He kept quiet, never wanted to make anything public until she started trying to destroy his reputation and tagging his place of work.

Which prompted Nedu to go public and released the DNA result.

Would you call Nedu weak for doing that?

I am of the believe that a man and his ex wife should be mature enough to handle their business privately, for the sake of protecting reputation, family name and avoiding stigma on the children (especially in the case of infidelity on the side of the ex wife).

But where the ex wife is hell bent on destroying the man, she may lose all that "privilege", because the man has to protect his reputation, job and future.

A man with a dented reputation has nothing left to hold on to.

While I blame the young man for how he led his ex wife, let's not completely punish or ridicule his attempt to redeem himself and protect himself from a vile woman and family.

Also, this is the age of social media.

Examples like that can be used to discourage any erring wife that may want to become vile because she was caught in infidelity.

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@churchboyh ⚡️

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@Fadan35 @ykbprst @grok

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@Feeztm If you drive am when rain dey fall, e body go wet..

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@DAMIADENUGA Na like dis Murtala take kpai.. walking alone for street no good for him status abeg

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@paga Need a refund of 462k please

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@ArcSadam And you say make she “Rest In Peace”? 🤔

[Do2dtun Energy gAD @iamDo2dtun]

Forgiveness is a long road & this is my take. Who heals the damages you caused ? The names you labelled me; the impression you created about me; the lies you told people? the pain you caused the innocent kids or people that had no part in the drama you started?

What’s the repercussions for the damages you caused ?

[Do2dtun Energy gAD @iamDo2dtun]

I don’t have to respect anyone to see my children. Only God. I will never beg for what’s mine: I’ll rather fight especially when I did nothing wrong to deserve that. The reason you all believe your archaic mentally is cos of your lawless country & ignorance. you are all wired to beg for what’s yours hence your ignorant parents passed on the same mentality to you. If you don’t like my tweets, BLOCK ME

[JUST KINGS @JustKingss]

So many characters in this country 😂😂😂

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@instablog9ja 😢

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@DONJAZZY Don Jazzy, Don Jazzy, Don Jazzy still dey find money.. 👽

[ERIC 🇫🇷💜🦅 @LagosPresidentt]

My Dad is AA and my Mum is also AA but I’m AS.
Can someone make this make sense to me, please.

[Foohard🇳🇬 @ifoohard]

1) It is amazing how people can come together on a stupid decision to fight the only sane person in the matter. I have seen this many times that it no longer surprises me.

2) The funny thing is, she would have been posting “The Best Mom in the World” on every Mother’s Day before this situation. I can’t imagine how heartbreaking this will be for the girl.

3) Let’s say women will be women and can’t see beyond their nose, it is disturbing to see that the elder sister gained the backing of their brothers. These are people who will breed families. How can these men produce and contribute sensible human beings to the society🤦🏽‍♂️

4) She must also not overlook where the audacity to talk to her husband directly against her wish is emanating from because if there is no relationship between her elder sister and her husband that she may not know about, she will not have the audacity to think she can go directly to her husband circumventing her.

5) This girl is better off out of the family group because that seems to be a group of senseless people. I don’t think she will miss much from serious affairs of life other than family gist and parties.

[PATO PATO🇳🇬🇺🇸 @peculiarpat1]

There is nothing I won’t read on this app. Honestly, some of these situations make me feel sad. The entitlement mentality of some individuals is striking. It’s shocking to think that an elder would even contemplate living in the same house as her married younger sister.

It’s incredibly misguided to believe that, because her younger sister refused her request, she can simply disregard her and approach the sister’s husband. It shows a lack of understanding that by attempting to undermine her younger sister in her own home through her husband, she is essentially trying to disrupt her sister's marriage and disrespect her in front of her spouse.

Equally disappointing is the support she receives from her mother and brothers in this shameful behavior. That's a hell of red flag.

Above all, it will be utterly unacceptable for the husband to disrespect his own wife by allowing this situation to occur. I hope he doesn't do it. I will tell her point blank that she can't stay, if not for anything, for disrespecting my wife and setting her up against the other family members.

Everything about this story is extremely frustrating and annoying!

[Kator Tarkaa @KatorTarkaa]

The married younger sister is not wrong to draw boundaries in her own home. Marriage creates a new unit, and preserving that peace is very important. What her family seems to overlook is that she isn’t rejecting her elder sister as a person, she’s simply protecting her marital space.

On the other hand, their anger comes from cultural expectations. In many families, marriage doesn’t automatically cancel family obligations. They see her openness to her husband’s sister but refusal towards her own as inconsistent, even though context matters.

At the heart of it, this is really just entitlement. Family often assumes access, but access to someone’s home is not a right, it’s a privilege.

Emotions are high but logically her stance is justified. If her elder sister needs support, the wider family including their mother and brothers should step up, rather than pushing responsibility onto her marriage.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

A young lady is in my DM.

She lives with her elder brother that is married.

Her brothers wife's elder sister (single and over 30) came to visit because she was job hunting.

She got the job, & told the married younger sister that she would be staying with her, because it's closer to her new place of work.

The married younger sister refused, and said that she cannot live with her, in her husband's house.

Furious at her younger sister's refusal, she then said that she would discuss with her husband instead, & ignore her younger sister.

The married younger sister told her this:

"This is my husband's house, and so it's my house. If I say that you cannot live with me, my husband will support my decision".

Then she reported her younger sister to their mother and brothers. Their mother was upset with the married sister, and threatened to excommunicate her.

Making good of the threat, her brothers also sided their mother, and they removed the married sister from their family group chat.

Their anger is that, how can her husband's younger sister be living with them, & she'll refuse their elder sister to live with them?

Then the married younger sister replied, saying:

"Her mother is late. Our mother is still alive. That the elder sister should go and live with their mother, and be going to work from there".

Do you think that the married younger sister is justified with her decision?

Should her husband stand with her decision too?

End.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

There is a gang rape video that is spreading on X. For the life of me, I do not understand why people enjoy rape videos when someone is being violated. Rape in itself is a terrible experience, how much worse a gang rape. We should talk about it.

I struggle to understand why anyone would rape. Rape is a theft and an invasion. You steal a person's right to consent to whom they share their body with, and you invade their body without regard to their person. Dignity of human person is a fundamental human right, but even more than that, a common sense approach in dealing with people. Everyone reserves a right to consent.

The fight against rape has been long and bumpy, and that is why we must keep speaking up. People of all ages are being raped and having their bodily autonomy stolen from them. To be a decent human is not hard, you just have to be humane and see the other person as human. We even have adults who violate children that cannot protect themselves or speak up for themselves, leaving them with a ripple effect of compound damages.

For the poorly educated who make argument about wetness and erection to prove consent, or orgasm to prove that the person enjoyed the rape, please understand that an erect penis or lubricated vagina, isn't necessarily a sign of arousal. It is called Arousal Non-concordance. That is where your bodily reaction and your sexual desires are not in alignment, because blood flowing to your genitals does not mean you are mentally interested in sex. Rape and arousal can happen simultaneously, and one does not exclude the other. Orgasm during rape isn't an expression of pleasure. It is an example of an involuntary response to pleasure. The body responds to pain and pleasure regardless of how you feel.

Now, to the rape itself, there is a cold-hearted wickedness to insisting on a right to possess something that isn't yours and isn't your to take, and taking it by force. Even when two consenting adults are having sex, you have to exercise grace and kindness to understand how their body is reacting to it so you can make love to them right and understand when they need a breather or stop when they need you to stop. Imagine what it means to be violated because rape is a violation. Now imagine 4 to 5 guys taking turns to rape one lady.

There is the denial that comes with disbelief that this is happening to you. Then there is the fear because you can't even react for fear of harm. The eyes that are heavy with tears that refuse to flow. The plea that skips the rapists and echoes somewhere in the mountain. The silent prayer for the ground to swallow you. The lips that screams words that cannot be uttered. The blank stare of the ceiling watching you violated. The sweating skin beneath a blanket of shame. The deadness of the light in the eyes that is clouded by a hollowness that would remain a mainstay through relived trauma. Then the injurious wickedness to your body because they neither care how your feel or how much you hurt. They are there to orgasm and will not stop till they ejaculate. For gang rape, it is a continuous violation that leaves you dead in body and spirit, and you juat want to take your life.

I hope wherever she is, she gets the help she needs with the injurious trauma she has to live with, and find someone that loves her right. To every rape victims - whether at childhood or adulthood, I hope you find healing in your body and your heart, never lose the light in your eyes and find strength to navigate this world and positively impact it. Blessings 🙏🏾

#SayNoToRape