Yamot

Forensic-Clinical Psychologist and Educator

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

My dad received a message that his package was received by him BUT this is not true because no one is home. I just called your hotline and reported the incident, TAPOS BINABAAN AKO NG PHONE @LBCexpress

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

WTH

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

@LBCexpress My dad received a message that his package was received by him BUT this is not true because no one is home. I just called your hotline and reported the incident, I asked for a report number pero iniinsist ng agent ninyo na walang report no. TAPOS BINABAAN AKO NG PHONE

[Kevin Heintz @AskCoachKev]

After 8 years in the gym, here's every fitness tip I could come up with:

1. Stop drinking alcohol.

[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

An idea I can't stop thinking about...

Solomon's Paradox (and how to escape it):

In the Old Testament, King Solomon was known for his incredible wisdom. He was considered one of the wisest men who ever lived.

But King Solomon's life was quite a mess:

• Hundreds of wives and partners
• Obsession with money and wealth
• Absent relationship with son and children

In short, King Solomon was great at giving advice, but terrible at taking that same advice into account in his own life.

This story gave a name to a common psychological phenomenon:

When we provide clear, rational perspectives and advice to others, but are unable to provide those same quality perspectives to ourselves, we are falling victim to Solomon's Paradox.

We've all been stuck in Solomon's Paradox at one point or another.

Why? Well, it's quite simple, really:

When you're considering someone else's problems, you are objective, rational, and balanced.

When you're considering your own problems, you are emotional, irrational, and volatile.

It's not your fault—you're human, after all!

Two core strategies to escape:

Strategy 1: Create Space

Viktor Frankl, the Austrian philosopher and Holocaust survivor renowned for his contributions to existential psychology, has a brilliant framing for the power of space:

"Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response."

Pause: Our immediate reactions are almost always emotional, and we make bad decisions in the heat of emotion. Force a pause (whether it's seconds, minutes, hours, or days) before reacting.

Reset: Allow yourself to feel the emotional response, but remind yourself that you are in control of what comes next. Give yourself that power.

Engage: With a more balanced perspective, engage with the situation.

Strategy 2: Zoom Out

A rule for life: When in doubt, zoom out.

You live your entire life zoomed in. This can create challenges, as struggle feels bigger than it really is and growth feels smaller than it really is.

Forced zoom outs provide perspective, on the true nature of your struggles and the impressive nature of your growth.

​Mental Time Travel is a useful tool for zooming out:

Imagine yourself in the past and consider yourself in the present.

Imagine yourself in the future and consider yourself in the present.

This zoom out forces perspective that breathes new life into a situation.

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To fight back against Solomon's Paradox:

Create space and force new perspective.

The right questions (and answers) will come to you.

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

What a joke! @gcashofficial telling me to “Chat with Gigi”, the responses from there are automated. Nothing gets to be resolved from that, considering that this has been escalated already. Incompetent fool

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

Unacceptable! I have bills due today, and yet the money I cashed in to my @gcashofficial is still not reflected in my account. This is the 4th day… will @gcashofficial be paying the interest on the credit card bill? GIVE MY MONEY BACK!!!

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

3rd day that my ticket 110723961 with @gcashofficial has not yet resolved. I have payments due today and still the money I transferred from @TalktoBPI does not reflect in my @gcashofficial account.

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

@gcashofficial 110723961

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

I transferred money from my BPI account to GCash but it is not reflecting in my GCash account. I tried contacting the hotline but it’s not working. Gigi is not helping either @gcashofficial

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

@gcashofficial no i cannot submit a ticket because the hotline just ends the call

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

This is gold!

[Maxwell 🕊 @MindWisdomMoney]

These 44 sentences will make you more money than a 4 year business degree:

[Rueben Hewitt @FitFastCoach]

36 years on this planet. 19 years in the gym.

Here’s every fitness secret I’ve learned:

1. Eat fish a few times per week.

You’ll lose more fat, even if you eat the same number of calories. This is backed by research and personal experience.

[James Clear @JamesClear]

What is one important lesson for life that isn't taught in school, but that you want to teach to your kids?

[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

Life "cheat codes" everyone should know:

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

@Arshiethromycin enjoy! you deserve it

[Yamot @Tin2Condes]

day 1 of 2023, gusto ko na magresign. haiss