Said this in my I Saw the TV Glow video, but when I realized I was trans, I didn’t feel relief…I felt like my life was over.
I didn’t WANT to be different but I had no choice. I tried to imagine a long life where I repressed…and was filled with so much dread I nearly threw up.
@entitttty My vet’s office did the same thing when I got Pearl’s ashes back. I didn’t know that was something they did so I wasn’t expecting it and I burst into tears when I saw it. I’m so glad to have it and this pic I took for a photography class (and the negative in case it fades)
and really this attitude is how cisheteronormativity justifies transphobia. people have extreme anxiety about the conventions of sexual selection, about what traits convey desirability in maleness or femaleness, so they can’t allow a world where those boundaries can be crossed /3
it’s basically hoping that patriarchy’s exorsexist gender anxieties can be weaponized in favor of trans people. “we need a world where being in between sexes is so socially undesirable that trans people are given maximum transition care” /2
there’s been a lot of trans discourses lately coming from a fear of other people’s choices being forced upon you “if transition can be a spectrum, not an absolute, we will be pressured into the minimum” look I get the fear but /1