Vic Holtreman

Your first half built your résumé.
Your second half builds the man.
I rebuilt my body, faith, and purpose in my sixties. I write for men doing the same.

[Vic Holtreman @vicholtreman]

I built & sold Screen Rant and Game Rant.

Then my marriage ended after 24 years, and half my net worth went with it.

20+ years building a life and almost no time on the man who had to live inside it.

Here's what the second half taught me. 🧵

[Vic Holtreman @vicholtreman]

Many men don't define themselves by what they've done. They define themselves by what was done to them.

The kid who got picked last. The woman who said no. The parent who never approved. The marriage that fell apart.

We turn wounds into résumés and call it identity.

You can carry that for a while. It quietly destroys the second half.

I wrote about what finally broke that pattern for me.

https://t.co/g1ZEvz2Jfw

[Vic Holtreman @vicholtreman]

@creation247 @madefordominion *Catering to* mental illness.

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@madefordominion @roderickalb_ @naval I suppose people consume video like they eat popcorn. Reading requires slowing down and takes time.

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@madefordominion

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It took an X-ray of my fused spine to make me retire the deadlift. https://t.co/VVS6IlUKfk

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@Bodhichristos 😁😁😁

[Vic Holtreman @vicholtreman]

At 61 in Nashville I signed up for salsa classes on weeknights. I was easily one of the oldest guys in the room, counting steps out loud and stepping on feet.

For most of my first half I only did things I was already good at. Being bad at something in front of strangers felt like a threat. Somewhere after my divorce that flipped. I decided the second half was going to include things I was terrible at on purpose, because that turned out to be the only place I learned anything new.

Go be the worst one in a room this month.

[Vic Holtreman @vicholtreman]

@BigT_Broncos It’s nasty.

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Red Bull. 💯

[Aria @_WydAria]

Identify a beverage that has a terrible flavor yet people continue to rave about it as if it's fantastic

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@XStrangeHistory Thanks!

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@TimelessTrvlr

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@ArtofGent

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@BigT_Broncos That's wisdom. As we get older, stubbornness will land us in the hospital.

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@Marky_X_ People were more (truly) connected before the iPhone.

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@CoachDanGo I use my phone to track my sets, reps, weights, and exercises. I don’t scroll in between.

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@TimelessTrvlr @Filmi_fiedGuy And the studio knows it.

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@Jainadave_ Self control and discipline?

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@ill_Scholar

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@ArtofaLadyX Love the photos attached to your tweets.

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@thinkwithpete Thanks, Peter!

I will say that free weight lifting incorporates more stabilizer muscles than a lot of machines. I prefer free weights, but have switched to machines only for the movements that make sense for me based on my physical limitations now.

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@madefordominion There's no rite of passage from boys to men any more and it shows.