Wise words Agba
Men pour into “her future” expecting eternal loyalty.
Reality: feelings shift, hypergamy doesn’t retire. Women initiate ~69% of divorces, and rates often rise with the independence they gain from what you funded.
Protect yourself:
1. Keep legal/financial guardrails (trusts, agreements).
2. Never stop leveling up your own skills, assets, and frame.
3. Lead with structure, not blind sacrifice.
Build together, but own your leverage. Respect.
I will not stress over what I can’t control.
I am focused, disciplined, and capable of handling today.
My efforts will not be wasted.
The right opportunities will find me.
I will move with confidence, wisdom, and peace.
What is mine will not pass me by.
I am growing, improving, and becoming better every day.
Today will favour me🙏
HOW TO KEEP A GOOD MAN 🧵
Most women don’t lose men because they’re “not enough.”
They lose them because they don’t know how to handle a good man.
Let’s talk.
1. QUIT THE DRAMA. BE HIS PEACE.
A man already fights battles outside. If he comes home to chaos, tension, and constant arguments, he will detach. Men don't like drama. Your presence should feel like rest, not war.
2. RESPECT IS NON-NEGOTIABLE.
Caring is cute but not enough. Respect is what keeps him.
Don’t raise your voice at him even in anger.
Don’t belittle him in public or private.
Don’t weaponize his weaknesses.
Once respect is broken, attraction starts dying quietly.
3. STOP TESTING HIM
Not every day: “Let me see if he really loves me…”
Good men don’t stay where they constantly feel set up.
If he’s consistent, stop creating problems to measure his love.
4. APPRECIATE HIM LOUDLY.
You’d be shocked how many men are starving for simple appreciation.
Things as simple as: "My love, I see what you’re doing."
“I’m proud of you.”
“Thank you”.
Say it. Don’t assume he knows.
5. DON’T COMPETE WITH HIM.
Women! Your man is not your rival.
Let him lead where he’s strong.
Support him where he’s weak.
It's a relationship, not a power struggle.
6. KEEP YOUR FEMININE EDGE
Take care of your appearance
Stay soft in your energy
Don’t become harsh, bitter, or overly combative.
Comfort should not kill attraction.
7. GIVE HIM SPACE WITHOUT INSECURITY.
A good man doesn’t need monitoring. If he wants:
Time alone
Time with friends
Time to think
Let him breathe.
Clinginess suffocates even loyal men.
8. BE LOYAL FOR REAL
Not just physically.
Don’t entertain "backup options"
Don’t cheat on him
Don’t disrespect him behind his back
Loyalty is felt, not just claimed.
9. GROW WITH HIM
If he’s evolving and you’re stagnant, you’ll lose alignment.
Work on yourself
Build your mind
Improve your life.
No man wants a liability.
10. DON’T TAKE HIM FOR GRANTED
This is where many women fumble badly.
You prayed for a good man…
then got comfortable and careless.
Consistency deserves consistency.
Keeping a good man is not about control. It’s about: Peace.
Respect.
Loyalty.
Do this right and he won’t just stay.
He’ll invest, protect, and choose you over and over again.
“I do not believe that a man’s money is our money, and a woman’s money is her money. I sincerely do not understand the idea of marriage that we currently have” - Woman shares.
As a Man or Woman, Instead of listening to Paul Eneche on this topic, it is better to listen to Ibukun Awosika.
After listening to both of them, pick the one that best suits your marriage. Amen.