You should be suspicious of any person that rewards the weaker version of you. If your friends mock discipline, your coworkers reward gossip, or your circle makes ambition feel embarrassing, you are surrounded by a social immune system against your growth.
“But you survived” NO I disassociate, like A LOT. My heart drops when someone raises their voice. I shut down very easily. And I'm far too observant. I always feel like a burden. I isolate often. But yeah, sure, I guess I survived.
It’s really surprising that people are shocked that Gen Z don't enjoy work. Back in the day, work was to let you buy a home, travel and set up a few nice things for yourself. Would you feel the same way about work if it lead to none of the above ??
Being high-masking autistic is so funny because people will compliment the exact coping mechanisms you developed to survive being misunderstood and then use that as evidence that you're "doing completely fine🤪
It's so wild how as an autistic person I'm often labelled as naive because I believe what people tell me. Why is someone else's dishonesty being framed as my failure?
A psychiatrist once told me, “You don’t understand what people diagnosed with schizophrenia put their families through.” But I do. I often receive emails from family members describing what they are going through. Some messages from parents read less like expressions of concern and more like attacks on their adult child’s character.
So, to the psychiatrist who said this, let me tell you what my family put me through. The people who were supposed to love and care for me as a child abused me in every way possible, enough so that it pushed me into a delusional world for my own survival and a way to cope with all the horrific traumas.
Another glaring problem with the diagnosis of schizophrenia is that it excludes stories like mine because it offends families. Much more pleasing to wrap stories of childhood adversity up in biological nonsense than confront parents who have seriously harmed their offspring.
This paragraph by Haruki Murakami hits hard:
“Once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”
Honestly it’s kind of upsetting how much of the autism experience is just being shamed out expressing yourself in any way that’s normal for you and learning to keep everything to yourself so you’re not shamed for being weird and then being shamed for being so quiet because it’s also weird to be quiet but if you tell this to anyone else they’ll say “why do you care so much what people think” and that’s when the ancient ape part of your brain gets ready to beat them to death.
People say, "Just be yourself."
They don't realize that many autistic people spent years learning that being themselves came with rejection, ridicule, or punishment.