My theory: burnout has nothing to do with how many hours or how hard you work. It's caused by working for people you don't like, towards goals you don't believe in, in systems that grant you no agency.
11. Hang out with ambitious, motivated and people who're obsessed with improving their life. Your circle should discuss more about money, business and success.
It should disgust you when someone isn’t sure of you. When they want you sometimes. Or only parts of you, not all of you. It should make you feel violently ill to spend a second thinking about or spending time with someone who doesn’t completely and utterly VALUE you. And RESPECT YOU. And want you in their life. All of you. And feel LUCKY that you are there with them. And CARE ABOUT YOU. The same way you care about them. You will never settle for crumbs again once you realize that you just.. don’t have to. “Take it or leave it,” their actions, their inaction and apathy will tell you. So leave it. They can take their crumbs and fuck off. You deserve more. You deserve the whole cake and some fucking candles too.
I was a people pleaser. I wanted everyone to know my heart was open and I’d hold a place for them to free their mind. I couldn’t say no. It didn’t make me weak. My capacity of love was more than they could provide. I was giving the greatest parts of me to who didn’t deserve it.
I’ve made peace with the fact I will likely never be in a relationship. I mean everything is not for everyone in a lifetime. My main focus is, how can I create more joy and happiness in the life that I was given instead of a crying about the one I wanted that never came
i’m a be honest, if you’re mean to people unprovoked i always assume you’re deeply insecure. like, there’s no way a secure person is just mean for no reason
friends who tell you the truth are so important. we may not always like the truth but it’s necessary for self-awareness purposes & realistic growth. sometimes the people that are closest to us, have insight into things we may not immediately recognize but absolutely need to hear.
most times, i’m less mad about the actions that hurt me & more mad about the principle behind those actions. what belief or value system were you upholding that led you to act in a way that caused me & my loved ones harm? how long have you believed these things were harmless?
I truly believe surrendering is one of the best things you can do in life, surrender to your emotions, surrender to life challenges, surrender to love, surrender to your fears you never know how easy something is until you stop fighting against it.
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behaving ‘unbothered’ and ‘low maintenance’ (aka staying quiet instead of stating emotional needs) in any connection will keep attracting people who like that they seemingly don’t have to put much effort in. they’ll probably not provide you with any emotional safety, either.