Every single thing you want in life is on the other side of something that sucks. That suck might be 100 workouts, 100 bland meals, 100 hours of work, or 100 hard conversations. Embrace it. Pay the cost of entry with pride. The answers you seek are found in the actions you avoid.
This is the pinnacle of all sports plays:
- Coach grinded for years, worked for peanuts before getting his shot. Infinite swag. "I win, Google me."
- Losingest team in CFB history. Now 15-0 and playing for a natty. Biggest turnaround ever.
- QB grew up in Miami. Tried to walk on but they passed. Same team that roughed him up last year. Time for revenge.
- 4th Down. Game on the line. QB draw. The unlikeliest of Heisman winners rushes past the first down marker, gets hit, uses god or whatever to stay up, diving touchdown, clearly in, no replay. Crowd explodes.
- Cut to his parents in the stands. Mother with MS in a wheelchair going nuts. Father stays seated the entire game to comfort her. One arm with a fist in the air, one arm around his wife.
- Coach asked what he's going to do after winning the national championship: "I'm gonna have a beer."
Mic drop.
This is a simulation with all attributes turned up to max.
Today I turn 55.
Iâm the fittest, sharpest, and happiest Iâve ever been.
If Iâm an outlier, itâs not because Iâm built different or discovered a secret formula. The truth is far less glamorous:
Itâs a million tiny choices, compounded over decades.
Here are 55 of them:
1. Walk 15+ miles a week, even if you do other exercise. Humans are uniquely made to move slowly over long distancesâitâs critical to longevity.
2. Develop a writing practice. Itâs the single best way to sharpen your mind. And remember, you donât have to be a good writer to write. Start with 10 minutes a day.
3. Swap out your toothpaste, deodorant, lotions, soap, shampoo, and other personal care products for natural versions. Hereâs a rule of thumb: Donât put anything on your skin that you couldnât safely eat.
4. If you have a positive thought about someone, donât keep it to yourselfâshare it immediately. Encouragement defies the laws of physics: When you give energy, you also receive it.
5. Wear shoes with a wide forefoot (I like Topo Athletic) and wear toe spreaders around the house (search âyoga toesâ on Amazon). Spine health begins with the feet.
6. Get sunlight regularly. Moderate sun exposure (without sunscreen) is hugely important for overall health.
7. Do a 3-minute deep (âass to grassâ) squat every morning. Deep squats are often called the anti-aging exercise. Itâs been said that, âItâs not that you canât do deep squats because youâre old, itâs that youâre old because you canât do deep squats.â
8. Explore minimalism (itâs not what you think it is).
9. Set boundaries on toxic relationships. We tend to cling to relationships past their expiration date, and it takes a bigger toll on our health than we recognize.
10. Eat real food. Not too much. Donât eat garbage. Binge occasionally. Fast occasionally. Thatâs the diet.
11. Learn about FIRE. Itâs a great framework for financial success.
12. Donât take antibiotics except in emergency situations. Theyâre massively over-prescribed and arenât needed in most cases. Antibiotics have done untold damage to our guts, which is where health begins. Great natural alternatives are out there.
13. Get 8 hours of quality sleep each night. To optimize sleep:
âDonât eat after 6pm
âGet blackout shades and cover LEDs with black tape
âNo screens 2 hours before bed
âTry ashwagandha (an herb) to calm the nervous system
14. Stop drinking, even in moderation. People find all sorts of ways to justify drinking, but thereâs no escaping the simple fact that alcohol is a toxin and it limits your potential.
15. Travel as much as possible. Nothing expands the mind like seeing the world. And travel doesnât have to be expensiveâthe best experiences happen outside of fancy resorts, when you live like a local.
16. Let go of resentment. When you forgive someone, you release the prisoner, and the prisoner isnât them⊠itâs you.
17. Show up on time, every time. Poor time management limits success more than most people realize. If you struggle with punctuality, stop everything else and fix that first.
18. Spend lots of time in nature and touch the earth. Humans evolved over 300k years to live in harmony with nature, and only recently have we retreated indoors. If you donât spend time outside, youâre fighting biology (hint: You wonât win.)
19. Stop doing dumb things. As Leo Tolstoy said, âPeople try to do all sorts of clever and difficult things to improve life instead of doing the simplest, easiest thingârefusing to participate in activities that make life bad.â
20. Find your happy place and (eventually) move there. Most people live where they live because... that's where they live. We are products of our environmentâchoose yours carefully.
21. Find a hobby and pursue mastery. You canât have a happy life without a passionate pursuit that isnât your vocation. Your workâeven if you enjoy itâisnât enough.
22. Avoid mainstream medicine except as a last resort. The results are inâour healthcare (or more appropriately, sick care) system is badly broken and only makes people sicker.
23. Have a mindset of abundance. There is no advantage to being a pessimistâeven if youâre right, itâs a miserable way to live. In a very real way⊠whatever you believe, youâre right!
24. Do hard things. Choose courage over comfort. Everything you want is on the other side of fear and hard work. As Jerzy Gregorik said, âHard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.â
25. Ignore haters. Hurt people hurt people. Negative/toxic people live in a prison of their own design. Donât join them!
26. Say no. Protect your time and energy like itâs your most precious asset⊠because it is.
27. Become a water snob. As an alien said on Star Trek, humans are âugly bags of mostly water.â You are what you drinkâliterally! We have Mountain Valley Spring water delivered in glass 5-gallon jugs and also have whole-house water filter (Aquasana Rhino).
28. Stop drinking sodas and sugary energy drinks. After a few weeks you wonât miss them, and a few months later theyâll seem disgusting. Refined sugar causes inflammation, which is the root of most disease.
29. If youâre over 35, find a good functional/longevity medicine doctor and start tracking your hormones. Modern life is hell on the endocrine system and restoring healthy hormone levels can change your life. As we get older, we either accept a slow decline in performance or we do something about itâchoose the latter!
30. Develop a morning routine and follow it faithfully. Win the morning, win the day!
31. Invest in experiences, not things. People frequently regret buying things, but rarely regret investing in great experiences (especially when shared with loved ones). Remember, thereâs nothing you can buy in a mall that youâll remember in ten years.
32. Explore spirituality. Itâs arrogant and small-minded to believe thereâs nothing going on in our universe that is beyond our comprehension. We know less about our universe than an ant meandering on a sidewalk understands about this planet.
33. Have a strong bias toward actionâdoing rather than talking. If you ask a bunch of old people about their regrets, theyâll talk about the things they *didn't* doâthe shots they didnât takeâmore than the things they did do (even if it went wrong). As Wayne Gretzky famously said, âYou miss 100% of the shots you donât take.â Most people donât take enough shots.
34. Stay lean. Men in particular are obsessed with muscle mass these days, but bulk doesnât age well. The goal is to be strong but lean. The fittest guys in their 50s and beyond arenât meatheads, theyâre lean guys who are serious about a sport.
35. Curate your inner circle carefully. Surround yourself with people you admire and who challenge you to grow. Remember, weâre the average of our 5 closest relationships.
36. Be the fittest version of yourself. Your body is your only vessel for experiencing lifeâso treat it as such. Fitness isnât working out a few times a week, itâs a lifestyle. The older you get, the more time you need to devote to your health.
37. Take the time to appreciate art and beauty in all its forms.
38. Think globally, but act locally. Too many people put their energy into far-away problems they donât understand and canât impact, while ignoring problems right under their nose. Want to change the world? Start at home.
39. Try psychedelics. Itâs one of those things everyone should do at least once, and it might be the breakthrough youâve been looking for.
40. Limit bad habits, including unhealthy thought patterns. We all have themâpractice avoidance and find substitutes. Get professional help if needed.
41. Be a lifelong learner. Your brain is just like a muscleâif you donât feed and flex it regularly, it will atrophy.
42. Find your purpose. People with a strong sense of purpose are happier and live longer. Lack of purpose sucks energy and magnifies depression.
43. Only take advice from people who embody the traits you want to have. Talk is cheapâemulate those who have DONE it.
44. The goal is not to retire and do nothing, itâs to build a great day-to-day life that you donât need to escape. A life of leisure is a slow death. Happiness isnât possible without a little struggle, uncertainty, and skin in the game.
45. Have fun! Do frivolous and silly things that make you smile. As George Bernard Shaw famously said, âWe don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.â
46. Whatever you want to do or achieve in life, start NOW. Donât fall victim to âsomeday thinkingâ because someday never comes.
47. Accumulate assetsâthings that grow in value over time. Itâs the #1 habit of rich people, and it can be done in tiny chunks. Instead of spending $100 on an impulse purchase that has no lasting value, put that money into an index fund or Bitcoin. It becomes addictive (in a good way).
48. Donât ignore the big 3 canaries in the coal mine for health:
âLow libido (and ED)
âFrequent sinus & respiratory issues
âDepression
These usually arenât medical conditions in themselves, theyâre symptoms of an underlying problem. Find a good doc (outside of the mainstream) and figure out the root cause.
49. Have a clear vision for your future. How can you decide which direction to go if you havenât clearly defined the destination? It sounds obvious, but 95% of people havenât defined their âIdeal End Stateâ in detail and in writing. (Check out my thread on this topic.)
50. Make your own decisions. We live in an era where most of what society tells us is wrong. Donât be afraid to break from societal normsâif people say youâre crazy, itâs a sign that youâre doing something right.
51. Get hardcore about mobility exercise. As you age, itâs usually the knees, hips, and lower back that limit physical performance. 30 min a couple times a week can spare you a lifetime of pain. YouTube is a great resource.
52. Go all in on family. Get married, stay married, have kids. Burn the boats. In the end, family is all that matters.
53. Be ruthless with your time. Money comes and goes. Time only goes. Audit your calendar ruthlesslyâcut the trivial, double down on the meaningful, and spend your hours like your life depends on it. (Because it does.)
54. Have a strong bias toward action. Be curious, try things, meet peopleâitâs how you increase your surface area for serendipity, the most powerful unseen force in our lives.
55. Reinvent yourself every decade. Over time, we slowly drift off course from our priorities, values, and true identity. Take stock and donât be afraid to hit the reset button. Bold, calculated moves made for the right reasons almost always pay offâusually even more than you can imagine.
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Note to myself today, maybe some of you need to read it too.
The darkness you carry inside is lying. Itâs tricked you into believing itâs a superpower. When you mess up, the shame and anger you feel towards yourself burn a memory into your mind so that you will never repeat the same mistake. For this reason, your self-loathing creates a mirage that its existence is a part of who you are, and you canât be you without it. Itâs your secret weapon, your edge! The truth of it all is itâs nothing more than a parasite. Sucking you dry, stealing your presence, and forcing you to burn energy that could be spent on building a flourishing existence for you and your loved ones. Fight the darkness, be kind to yourself, and keep moving forward.
Refs stopped the game clock for 4 seconds when it should have been running
freezes at :09 while play clock ticks from :39 to :35
game should have been over
how can they make a mistake like this
Thiel's Closing Thoughts (CS183: Startup)
There is something importantly singular about each new thing in the world. There is a mini singularity whenever you start a company or make a key life decision. In a very real sense, the life of every person is a singularity.
The obvious question is what you should do with your singularity. The obvious answer, unfortunately, has been to follow the well-trodden path. You are constantly encouraged to play it safe and be conventional.
The future, we are told, is just probabilities and statistics. You are a statistic.
By their nature, singular events are hard to teach or generalize about. But the big secret is that there are many secrets left to uncover. There are still many large white spaces on the map of human knowledge. You can go discover them. So do it.
Get out there and fill in the blank spaces. Every single moment is a possibility to go to these new places and explore them.
There is perhaps no specific time that is necessarily right to start your company or start your life. But some times and some moments seem more auspicious than others.
Now is such a moment. If we donât take charge and usher in the futureâif you donât take charge of your lifeâthere is the sense that no one else will.
So go find a frontier and go for it. Choose to do something important and different. Donât be deterred by notions of luck, impossibility, or futility. Use your power to shape your own life and go and do new things.
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5 LESSONS FROM 5 BOSSES IN TECH:
1. Peter Thiel
2. Jack Dorsey
3. Vinod Khosla
4. Max Levchin
5. Reid Hoffman
@rabois gave a talk on the key learnings from five of the bosses heâs had in his career. It was cool to see him wear the @traba_work sweatshirt on stage.