Yanano Dylan (Ph.D)

PhD in Politics and International Relations| Scholar of Mugabeism & Dzinashe Machingura|Statist myth of socialism| Gramscian notions of organic crises in Africa

[Yanano Dylan (Ph.D) @DrYanano]

@andrii_sybiha You need to be evaluated by a competent psychiatrist

[Dad Starting Over @dadstartingover]

What actually makes a man? It's not the big dog or the lifted truck. It's a mindset. A fire breaks out in the kitchen and everyone panics, and one person says: everybody out the front door, go, I've got this. It's the captain who's last off the sinking ship. Cross-culturally, all over the world, the man is the level-headed one the room turns to when it all hits the fan. There's a lot of noise telling us not to be that guy. I say be that guy.

[Dad Starting Over @dadstartingover]

When a guy tells me he's the first man to ever treat her right, that she's had nothing but abuse and he's her rescuer, I already know how it ends. Badly. It's white knight syndrome. And it goes deeper: we marry our childhoods. The guy whose dad cheated on his mom five times marries a woman who cheats on him five times, and one day it hits him: I married my dad. The normal, healthy girl felt boring. Miss Broken felt like home. That's the pattern, and it took me years to see it in myself.

[Gia Macool @GiaMMacool]

I've watched my father die.

I've watched my brother die.

And now I'm watching my husband fight for his life.

I've learned that when life gets hard, the easiest thing to do is think about the worst-case scenario.

It's easy to walk away, blame someone else, isolate yourself, quit your workouts, or even give up on everything around you

That’s what the average mind does…they see struggle and want nothing to do with it.

The harder thing is to say, "We're going to get through this together. We're going to learn from this. We're going to come out stronger."

Your health is your true wealth.

You can lose your house.

You can lose everything in your bank account.

You can even lose people you love.

But if you still have your health, and you protect your mindset, you still have something no one can take away: the ability to rebuild.

Stay focused on the silver lining friends!

Keep showing up.

Keep believing.

Keep doing the work.

You may be surprised by what you're capable of overcoming.

[Farnaz Fassihi @farnazfassihi]

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[Dad Starting Over @dadstartingover]

The hard part: yes, that night was real. The tears, the remorse, the love, all real. But a powerful emotional moment does not create behavioral change. Think of every guy who swears he's hitting the gym Monday and is eating cheesecake by Tuesday. He meant it. Feelings fade. The old patterns come back. Feeling alone was never going to be enough to change how she's wired.

[Masculine Ascend @TestoAscend]

Being left on read isn't always the real issue.

Your reaction is.

The insecure man sees silence as rejection.

So he starts chasing.

He double texts.

Sends memes.

Changes the subject.

Anything to get a reply.

Now she's leading the interaction.

Instead, do this:

[Masculine Ascend @TestoAscend]

The moment you stop treating delayed replies like an emergency, you stop giving them power over your emotions.

That's confidence.

Men who are secure with themselves don't measure their value by someone's response time.

[Masculine Ascend @TestoAscend]

They don't need constant reassurance that a woman is interested.

They understand that genuine interest doesn't need to be forced.

[Masculine Ascend @TestoAscend]

A woman notices when a man has a full life outside his phone.

That makes him far more attractive than someone who is always waiting for the next notification.

Remember... the man who doesn't chase every delayed reply is usually the one who keeps control of the interaction.

[STUNNER @Cr7Godbrand]

Being a “ REAL MAN” is what causing all these “ divorce celebration and divorce glow” you see daily online.

Any woman who suffered in her marriage, invested in her marriage, and struggled alongside her husband is far less likely to celebrate a “divorce glow-up” because she’ll be grieving the fact that all of her sacrifices, effort, time, and investment are gone.

This is why you should stop being a “real man.”

Our mothers stayed in their marriages because they suffered and sacrificed. Our fathers stayed in their marriages because they suffered and sacrificed. They couldn’t just wake up one day and throw it all away without fighting to keep it afloat.

Modern women are often raised to prioritize themselves first. Stop being a “real man.” Make her invest her money, her time, her effort, take risks, and make sacrifices just like you. Make her pay bills. Make her cook and clean. Make the relationship a shared investment.

Many men aren’t celebrating divorce because they actually lost something they spent years building. If my wife divorced me today, she’d cry for days. Why? Because I made sure we both invested in this marriage. We both have something to lose.

Women naturally live longer than men on average, so don’t treat her like she’s too fragile to sacrifice. She won’t die from carrying responsibility.

Stop being a “real man.”

[Yanano Dylan (Ph.D) @DrYanano]

@FT I thought Ukraine is winning the war

[Dad Starting Over @dadstartingover]

You stop chasing because the chasing isn't love. It's fear. You're not pursuing her. You're managing her. You've been trying to control the outcome of a relationship by being whatever she seems to need in the moment, and you've been doing it so long you don't know who you are when you stop.

[Yanano Dylan (Ph.D) @DrYanano]

@GiaMMacool Is it a woman thing or its human nature?

[Dad Starting Over @dadstartingover]

Long-term monogamy is not built for sexiness. We come alive when it's new, when we're on the market. She'll say he used to write me love notes and bring flowers, haven't seen it in 20 years. He'll say she used to be bubbly and sexy, now she's blah in her pajamas. Nature wired us to bond, make babies, then drift. Fighting that starts with knowing it's real. @uncorkingastory
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[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Your partner won't always make your life easier.

But, they shouldn't make every day harder.

Stop romanticizing relationship struggle:

[Yanano Dylan (Ph.D) @DrYanano]

@FT Your obsession with President Putin knows no bounds

[Will Knowland @beherleader]

The more insecure the man, the more likely enmeshment becomes.

An insecure man cannot hold his centre, so he starts borrowing one from his wife.

Her mood becomes his weather.
Her approval becomes his peace.
Her warmth makes him bold.
Her coldness makes him collapse.

He stops leading from conviction and starts reacting to emotional pressure.

That's enmeshment.

It's a loss of self under the guise of care.

He scans her face to decide how he is doing.
He edits himself to avoid her disapproval.
He abandons good decisions because she is upset.
He over-explains, over-apologises, over-accommodates.
He mistakes mood-management for leadership.
He thinks he is being patient, but often he is being governed.

If you want to check whether you're at risk of enmeshment, here are the clearest signs:

- You feel responsible for regulating her emotions.
- Your peace rises and falls with her reactions.
You judge your growth by whether she seems happy with you.
- You fear her displeasure more than you fear acting against what is right.
- You spend more energy preventing conflict than pursuing the good.
- You call it empathy, but in truth you are anxious, dependent, and easily controlled.

And of course insecurity doesn't always look soft. Sometimes it's controlling.

A man who cannot bear his wife’s disapproval may try to dominate her, lecture her, punish her, or “fix” her. That's still enmeshment in another form. She still governs him. He is still revolving around her. He is just doing it aggressively instead of passively.

A secure man can care without capitulating and remain tender without becoming entangled. He can hear her distress, weigh it, and still act from principle, prudence, and duty.

If her mood becomes your identity, your mission, or your measure, you are no longer leading. You are orbiting.

And the more insecure the man, the easier that orbit becomes.

[Yanano Dylan (Ph.D) @DrYanano]

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[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

Major cheat code for life: Become difficult to rush. The world will pressure you to rush into everything. Rushed decisions. Rushed conversations. Rushed relationships. Rushed timelines. There's immense power in rejecting that trend. Slow down. Create space to think clearly.