My ancestors buried half their children. All mine are alive. My ancestors' house had a dirt floor. Mine is wood. I have indoor plumbing, I have hot water, I have never in my life hauled a full bucket half a mile and I probably never will. Do you know how rare it is, in human history, for small children to wear shoes? Mine have multiple pairs. I can speak to my relatives who live thousands of miles away, for free, at any time. Video, if we want video. With machine translation, if we speak different languages.
The original Library of Congress had 740 books in it. I have more than that. If I run out of books in my home my local public library has 350,000. If I want to take a hundred books with me on vacation, they all fit on a device that fits in my purse.
I have heat in the winter and AC in the summer and a washing machine and I have never, ever, ever had to scrub a dress clean by hand in the stream. I can look up recipes from more than a hundred different countries and I've tried dozens of them. I ride a clean and modern train across my city for $4, or take a robot taxi if I'm out too late for the train. I donate $40,000 every year to the cause of getting healthcare to the world's poorest people and even after the donations I never have to think about whether I can afford a book, or a pair of shoes, or a cup of coffee.
There is a great deal more to fight for, of course. I hope that our descendants will look back on our lives and list a thousand ways they're richer. Maybe we ourselves will do that, if some of the crazier stuff comes true.
But the abundance is all around you and to a significant degree you aren't feeling it only because fish don't notice water.
you’re not being graded anymore:
> this can either be very suffocating or very freeing
> but it’s the new reality so learn to get comfortable with it
> there is no longer one map telling you what to do - *you* get to decide for yourself
> most people are out of touch with how to actually figure out what it is they want… they were always just told what to do
> grades, school, teachers - it all gave us structure and that’s all we knew for so long
> but you slowly see paths diverge. people ending up in different career paths, locations, marriages, partners, kids, income brackets
how to navigate the shift:
> stop asking “what am I doing with my life” it’s too big of a question (spoiler: most people don’t know anyway)
> move toward - “what do you want to aim for in the next month?”
> that moves you from a goal that’s impossible/daunting to something achievable
> identify what variables you’d most like to change in your life & where you want to move toward
> create BABY steps for yourself. if the step scares you, start smaller. life is just a series of the small compounding decisions we make over and over.
> learn what you DON'T want - elimination is just as valuable as finding what you love
> it's okay to want different things than others!! your timeline doesn't need to match theirs
> this is a lifelong journey. you won't figure it all out over night. commit to constantly re-evaluating what feels aligned
> find people who inspire you & ask for advice on how to get where you want to go
> nobody has it all figured out. everyone’s making it up. seriously.
> you have AGENCY! you get to decide what *you* want to do
so go start LIVING!!!
you’ve got the agency!!!
we’re all figuring it out!!!
you got this!!!
British by birth, American by choice. On the Fourth of July, I want to remind you why I made that choice: Because come hell or high water, on this nation’s best day or its worst, it is still the best country on Earth. Proud as hell to be an American. Happy Fourth!