Silent strength, steady steps.
In the Chinese Zodiac, the Ox stands for patience, resilience, and quiet determination — moving forward not by speed, but by persistence.
#ChineseZodiac#ChineseNewYear#ChineseCulture
Very rational & genetically long-term optimized advice, IMO.
Before my daughter was born, I too, struggled w/ balancing long hours of knowledge work w/ family time (I categorized work-time as “personal-time”).
Becoming a father has unlocked new levels of fulfillment.
Father of four here.
Playing with kids can be difficult. You will almost always be tired, sore, wanting to do something else, etc.
However, there comes a time when they need time with their father. Everyone needs dad-time.
And this doesn't have to be miserable.
We all get guilt, and I believe guilt is a fantastic emotion that helps us know when we're doing wrong and help motivate us to do what's right.
My guilt used to set in when my kids were stuck on a screen or getting cabin fever in a tiny apartment in the city where we used to live.
So I would take them to the park to kill the guilt.
And we all felt better afterwards. The kids were happier, I'd feel better (fresh air is nice), the guilt would be gone, and truth be told, I love watching them do anything that isn't on a screen, even if it's at the expense of my time.
There is literally no work that I can do nor money that I can make that is a larger investment into their well-being then imparting upon them fatherly and paternal love.
THAT SAID, oftentimes if I really need a moment, I'll set them up with paper and colored pencils, or demand that they build something with legos, or do some physical play FIRST while I have my cup of coffee, and then they will have "earned" the dad-time.
At the end of the day, it's a perspective thing. If you don't believe your time with your children is a better investment than your work, then you need to rethink your end goals.
Are you living your life to maximize it for yourself, or for them?
I promise you, you will feel so much better when you understand that being self-sacrificial for the good of your children and wife is virtuous and is building you into a better man.
With that frame of reference, it all becomes more tolerable, and dare I say, quite a nice life.
Everyone needs to hear this…
In a 1998 commencement speech at Rice University, author Kurt Vonnegut shared a story about his Uncle Alex, who had an uncanny habit we can all learn from:
“One thing which my Uncle Alex found objectionable about human beings was that they seldom took time out to notice when they were happy.
He himself did his best to acknowledge it when times were sweet. We could be drinking lemonade in the shade of an apple tree in the summertime, and he would interrupt the conversation to say, ‘If this isn't nice, what is?’
So, I hope that you Adams and Eves in front of me will do the same for the rest of your lives. When things are going sweetly and peacefully, please pause a moment, and then say out loud:
‘If this isn't nice, what is?’”
And really, that's what Thanksgiving means to me. It's not about the big.
It's about the small hiding in plain sight.
It's a chance to pause and appreciate the things you prayed for that you take for granted today.
It's a chance to recognize that you're living the good old days right now.
It's a chance to stop, look around, smile, and say:
If this isn't nice, what is?
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone.
What amazing fortune
To be 1 of the 100 billion homo sapiens sapiens that have ever lived
And to be alive at this the moment of the great inflection
Not to be 1 of 50 billion that died of mosquito borne disease
Nor to be 1 of 30 billion that died before age 5
Nor 1 of 10 billion killed in an act of violence
Instead to witness this ahistorical moment, to contribute in whatever small way in our outward expansion and proliferation,
To stand on the cusp of history:
What amazing great good fortune
last week i seeded an idea: no sugar from nov 21 – jan 2.
an experiment in agency: either you run your impulses or your impulses run you.
give it some thought...I'll be ask to see who's in.
🇺🇸 SCROLL, STRESS, REPEAT - SHORT VIDEOS LINKED TO WORSE MENTAL HEALTH
A deep-dive into 71 studies and nearly 100,000 people found that heavy use of TikTok, Reels, and Shorts is linked to worse attention, poor focus, higher stress, and more anxiety.
The worst effects showed up in attention span and self-control, especially among young users, but adults weren’t off the hook either.
Interestingly, the study found no strong link to body image or self-esteem, possibly thanks to the diversity of content on these platforms.
It’s not just about what you’re watching, it’s how these endless scroll apps are designed to keep your brain hooked.
Short-form videos aren't just harmless fun, they could be rewiring how your brain handles daily life.
So maybe put the phone down before your attention span shrinks to the length of a TikTok.
Source: Psychological Bulletin
I understand why many smart people feel this way but I’m not worried about this scenario one bit. In the heydays Google and Facebook there were similar predictions. Google was going to swallow the Internet, FB apps were going to replace everything etc. They weren’t the slow incumbents we think of them today. They were scary. I wasn’t around in Microsoft’s heydays but I bet it was similar.
One company to rule them all never works out. Especially in the application layer where every design decision is a trade off. That’s why even in the same category, you can have many successful companies based on minor differences. There isn’t one way to find restaurants, learn things, connect socially, organize an event or shop online. You can always find weaknesses of an existing service and build something better for certain customers.
If anything, the foundational model companies have much weaker moats than Google, FB and MS had. No models have a monopoly on anything. Distribution and capital is way more accessible for startups than it was 10-20 years ago.
OpenAI and Anthropic have some momentum right now. But when they’ve to compete in 10+ categories, you’ll be competing with a PM there, not their founders. These organizations also have significant cultural weaknesses you can leverage. Their coveted researchers want to solve math problems, not hear complaints from soccer moms in Ohio or compliance teams of regional hospitals.
So I’ll say game is on. You can’t win if you don’t play.
I’ve started to really appreciate @levie’s play on enterprise software strategies — esp. in the agentic AI ballooning market.
The size of the pie is seemingly infinite 🥧📈
The counter dynamic to the AI model doing everything is that, at least in enterprise, bridging the AI models’ capabilities to the customer’s environment still requires a tremendous amount of long tail work.
The gap between an AI agent working for 90% or 95% of the solution and 100% is usually about 10X more work than most realize.
Getting access to the enterprise data, connecting to the enterprise workflows, delivering the change management that employees need to adopt the technology, handling the regulatory and compliance requirements of that industry, and so on all require some degree of highly dedicated focus in a domain.
There’s a strong analogy to vertical SaaS here actually. One would have thought that horizontal technologies could solve all problems in SaaS. But in fact there are endless very large companies that just hyper focus on a single domain, because that level of specialization is valued by the enterprise.
We will likely see the same play out with AI Agents in the enterprise as well. And in fact these domains will be far larger than traditional software categories because the TAM isn’t software, it’s work to be done.
Very fun debate, but I’m taking the other side.
🎉 Congratulations to Prof. Sandile S. Motsa of UNESWA’s Faculty of Science & Engineering for being named among the 2025 Stanford–Elsevier Top 2% Scientists!
His work in Applied Mathematics continues to elevate UNESWA’s global research profile. 👏
#UNESWA#Top2PercentScientists
Oh to be young, black, with a gym membership, a great plug and a loving wife and son in a good neighborhood and good friends 🥺
No money shit, but I’m rich man