I can write voluminous pages of intricate, impassioned ideas (albeit probably illegible) in a few minutes but I cannot manage to do the simplest of errands without major procrastination and struggle.
Charity is propped up as being only valid if it is a one-time thing that doesn't create dependency-but the charities do absolutely nothing ri actively dismantle the systems of oppression and inequity that cause this.!
The most evil people look normal.
And they make their victims look like the problem.
And that’s how they get everyone to dismiss the abuse trauma they see with their own eyes.
This negative experience that I had with St. Vincent de Paul was relevant, in that, by way of apology, people kept reiterating the phrase, “We’re Volunteers.”. I think this means that in America, if you are not being paid for something, it’s okay to do it shittily and be Mean.?
The hardest part about being an adult is realizing that most people in high-level positions aren't actually smarter than you—they just had more "social capital" and the arrogance of a person who has never been told "no."
The guy who is actually in charge of the different St. Vincent de Pauls called and apologized on behalf of the volunteers who were being weird. He said they were “embarrassed”. He was very nice and I appreciate him calling because accountability is really very Important.!
Narcissists need to pretend you’re a bad person to validate the hatred they feel for envying you, so they don’t look guilty for the way they treated you.
Sorry, I don’t understand this concept of not helping someone because they might need help again in the future. That’s Like saying, You shouldn’t eat, because you’ll have to eat again tomorrow so you shouldn’t eat anything now.?
The difference between Neurodivergent "Masking" and Neurotypical "acting fake/being phony/code-switching" is that Neurotypical people think that inauthenticity actually is a normal thing to project, and this is because their whole deal is the avoidance of Shame.!