CEO @Duarte & best-selling author. Passionate about persuasion and visual stories used in business. Love hugs from hubby, three kids, and two grandsons.
“Storytelling isn’t really my job.”
I hear it from finance leaders. From engineers. From HR. From the people who think story is just spin, fiction, or fluff you add at the end to make things sound nice.
But every job influences someone.
Finance is trying to get funding approved.
HR is trying to change behavior across an organization.
Engineering is trying to get a project across the finish line.
That’s all influence. And influence is storytelling. You’re moving someone from one belief to another. From one decision to a different one. From inaction to action.
That’s the work of a story.
You don’t need to stand on a stage or start with “once upon a time.” But you do need to understand where your audience is right now, where you need them to go, and what they need to hear to get there.
So if your job involves moving a human being from one behavior to another, then yes. Storytelling is your job.
When decision makers say this phrase, it usually means you got a “no”...
“We’ll circle back.”
You’ve probably seen it happen.
A leader walks into a meeting with solid data, a clear ROI, and months of work behind them. Their recommendation seems like a no-brainer, but stakeholders still pass on it.
When this happens, it’s usually not the idea itself that failed them. Decision makers don’t accept ideas just because they’re good. If that were the case, you wouldn’t have this problem.
They accept ideas that solve their problems and advance their goals.
Most leaders walk into high-stakes meetings unknowingly making themselves the “hero” of their presentation. They focus mostly on their idea, their research, and their solution.
But the leaders who consistently get “yeses” make the stakeholders the hero.
They tailor their presentations to what the people in the room need to hear, how they need to hear it, why it matters to them personally, and how it helps them accomplish their goals.
We recently made an entire course revealing our full framework for creating presentations that convince stakeholders. It gives you the same framework we’ve used to help leaders secure 9-figure deals, rally teams around massive change initiatives, and win millions in budget approvals.
Link to the course: https://t.co/E42C6pnsJD
Many leaders spend so much time “perfecting” their presentations that they overlook what actually determines buy-in…
The conversations in meetings where tough issues are being discussed.
That’s where even some of the most skilled leaders see their communication break down. Even with sound thinking and an air-tight case, the room can still go quiet, and decisions can stall.
When this happens, leaders usually look for a flaw in their execution. But they rarely examine one of the most common causes:
Pressure.
When the stakes rise in a meeting, leaders lean harder into the thinking process that made them successful. And what usually serves them starts working against them in the room.
The leader who values precision gets tighter. Their team concludes their input isn’t welcome.
The leader who values speed gets more decisive. Their team assumes the outcome is already determined.
The leader who values exploration opens up more options. Their team struggles to understand what’s actually been decided.
In each case, the leader leaves the room confident, but the team leaves confused.
Leaders who handle these high-stakes moments best don’t try to overhaul how they communicate. They learn to recognize how their thinking shifts under pressure and make small, deliberate adjustments before the room goes sideways.
I wrote about this in detail for @mitsmr, and I included a self-diagnosis framework for identifying which pattern you default to (and how to course-correct in the moment).
Link to the article: https://t.co/mki0R9orvu
If your teams struggle to get buy-in from stakeholders, the problem is rarely what they’re pitching…
It’s how they’re pitching it.
I’ve watched this play out across organizations for decades.
Leaders do thorough analysis, have airtight recommendations, and pack their presentations with tons of data.
But stakeholders still say, “We’ll circle back.”
(And that usually means “No.”)
The disconnect often comes down to this…
Data by itself rarely convinces someone to take action. It needs a storyteller to shape it, connect the dots, and give it meaning for a specific audience.
Don’t assume that stakeholders will just “get it” if your leaders show them all the data.
Your leaders need to make their insights clear, provide a clear recommendation, and make the path forward feel obvious to everyone in the room.
This is the essence of data storytelling, and it is one of the highest-leverage skills your teams can learn.
If you want help figuring out where you or your team stands when it comes to data storytelling skills and get specific recommendations for how to improve, here is a link to a quick assessment: https://t.co/TIDNHaL3ly
After decades of working with leaders at companies like Apple, Salesforce, and Cisco, we've identified 4 storytelling techniques that consistently work to deliver important messages in high-stakes settings:
1. Start with the unexpected
Don’t begin your presentation with context. Instead, begin with the moment that makes people think, “Wait…what?”
Instead of something like:
“Here’s an update on our September campaign…”
Try starting with the most interesting detail:
“I broke our biggest marketing rule last month, and it worked.”
Lead with the surprise. You can add context later.
2. Let people feel the tension
After the surprise, don’t rewind to the beginning. Take your audience to the moment where things weren’t working.
Flat numbers.
Missed goals.
Stalled progress.
Instead of:
“The campaign was underperforming, and our team went back to the drawing board.”
Try:
"We were two weeks out from the end of the quarter. The campaign wasn’t producing results, and the team was out of ideas. That’s when I decided to take a risk...”
You don’t need to explain the problem. You need to make people feel it.
3. Use real dialogue
When your audience hears what was actually said, they stop listening to you and start visualizing the moment. This helps them connect emotionally with what you’re saying.
Instead of:
“The campaign manager said team morale was low and they were struggling to find a solution.”
Try:
“My campaign manager pulled me aside in the hallway and said, ‘We’ve tried everything. The team has been working overtime, and we don’t know what else to do.’”
Dialogue brings listeners into the moment with you. It makes the story real.
4. Share the lesson
Never assume people will infer the meaning you intended.
End your story by answering:
- What does this mean?
- How should someone act differently now?
Example:
“Breaking our biggest marketing rule helped us turn this campaign around and hit our numbers. I strongly suggest we revisit our marketing guidelines. We could be leaving a ton of revenue on the table.”
Without the lesson being clear, even a good story feels unfinished.
These are the same techniques we teach to our clients at Duarte. Try them out during your next presentation and watch how people lean forward and tune in to your message
Years ago, I was at a private TED event, and what I heard about presentations has stuck with me ever since…
After slide:ology came out, Duarte was asked to help transform slides and speakers as they launched https://t.co/bh2YIFAP9y
About 3 years later, I was at a curated table with several big deal TEDsters.
And I asked this question:
What do you miss most about the old way TED delivered presentations?
Their answer surprised me…
They said they missed the early days when they’d have a world-renowned scientist on stage who was so nervous they’d be shaking. Everyone in the audience would be cheering them on, and they would push through the fear to deliver incredible insights.
There was something special about that level of authenticity.
It was uniquely human. Unpolished.
It helped the audience feel a real connection with the speaker.
And it gave everyone an experience they’d never forget.
Every high-stakes presentation needs to have some level of “polish”. The deck needs to be visually clear. Your message should follow a clear structure. You need to practice your delivery.
But NONE of that will help you move your audience if you don’t develop an authentic connection with them.
Your conviction about your topic, your vulnerability to be your true self, and your genuine belief in what you’re sharing are what your audience will remember.
I used to believe leaders should always show up as their authentic, natural selves.
I don’t believe that anymore.
As a leader, you need to be a chameleon at times, changing your approach depending on what the situation needs.
For a long time, I thought my role was to show up, discern, and decide. I assumed that was what good leadership looked like.
Discern & decide…
Discern & decide…
That’s the job (or so I thought).
But what I started to notice is that many people needed something else first.
They needed warming up.
They needed reassurance.
They needed empathy.
And in order to provide those things, I had to slow down. I had to stop assuming my natural way of showing up was the right way.
I had to change my approach from:
“What needs to get done?”
To:
- How is everyone feeling right now?
- What do they need?
- Am I actually meeting them where they are? Or just where I’m comfortable?
Leadership, at its best, isn’t about being yourself 100% of the time.
It’s about being who others need you to be when they need it.
If you look at the story structure most movies use, you'll notice that roughly 10% of the time is for the beginning, 10% is for the ending, and 80% is the “messy middle”... which is the part leaders prefer to edit out.
Why?
Because most of us prefer telling a polished version of our stories:
- Here was the challenge.
- Here was the solution.
- Here was the success.
But when we do that, we miss the opportunity to give our audience something to deeply connect with.
The messy middle is where the roadblocks show up, where we fall to our knees and question whether we're on the right path after all.
It's usually the part that is the least fun for us to talk about...
But the most meaningful for the audience to hear.
When you share the messy middle, you become relatable. You become human.
There’s neuroscience behind this.
When someone tells a story, the listener’s brain fires in the same sequence as the speaker’s. You’re not just transferring information, you’re creating a shared experience.
And shared experience builds empathy.
That doesn’t mean oversharing. It just means acknowledging that the path wasn’t linear and that the struggle was real.
Hat tip to Syd Field’s work, who writes about this in his book Screenplay: The Foundations of Screenwriting.
I attended something on March 3rd that I struggled to put into words.
Hosted by my friend @aaker at Stanford, it was NOT a typical “AI event.” It was something far more human.
She set up tables where crazy-impressive experts sat alongside a handful of students. The experts weren’t there to lecture, but to listen. Each student shared how the past eight weeks had changed them.
And you could feel it.
You’d expect a Stanford course about AI to teach students how we can produce more. This was about using AI to live better. It was not about productivity gains.
She was talking about a beautiful life. A life of discovery, pursuit, health, impact, and savoring.
Students each built and published simple tools to support who they were becoming.
At the end, Jennifer gave a beautiful talk. She shared student reflections and then brought us to the edge of life itself.
Because when people reflect on their lives, they don’t ask:
Did I optimize enough?
No. They ask themselves:
-Did I live authentically?
-Did I live boldly?
-Did I stay connected to the people I love?
That’s the frame for this entire course. It’s not “How can AI make us faster?” but “How can AI help us live lives we won’t regret?”
While sitting at the table, listening to these students…
I realized that if we teach this generation to use AI only to optimize work, we’ve failed them.
But if we teach them to use it to expand their imagination and pursue a meaningful life…
We might change everything.
Jennifer, what you’ve built is rare. These students will never be the same.
And honestly… neither will I.
After decades of working with executives in board discussions, strategy offsites, and other high stakes moments where real decisions are on the line, I’ve noticed a consistent pattern. The leaders in these rooms are often some of the strongest communicators in their organizations, yet pressure has a way of revealing how each person processes complexity and the unintended signals they send when the stakes are high.
My latest @mitsmr article offers a way to self diagnose those patterns, understand why you may be losing the room, and learn how to adjust before alignment starts to slip.
https://t.co/mki0R9orvu